Hi Annemarie!
I also got my Dx when I was 31, I am 33 now, married, no children....
Well, my marriage has turned into a problem since and all of the sudden I know, WHY I didn?t think of having children earlier.... not with my husband... with another man? Well that would have been possible I think but of course no mentioning it right now as I am still doing therapy (herceptin) and then ... a one-breasted woman just doesn?t find a new partner just as easy - not easy when your healthy not easier now I guess...
I myself deal differently though with people "from the past"...
Just got an invitation for a class reunion f.i.: I decided to call and get in touch with some of my former collueges and told them my story. So now I have the feeling, I got some people "on my side" with me at the reunion.
I tend to tell people - also act a "in-touch-person" for a nursing school (I am a RN myself).
Only people "knowing" may be able to understand is my thought....
And they still treat me "normal".
It is part of my life-history, I guess, and I try to live WITH it rather than fight it.
Even if that is hard - but there is illnesses I would not exchange my cancer for....
hope, i could be of help
Alice,Vienna, Austria
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