almost experienced a mothers worse nightmare

Barbara H. · 08-12-2006, 09:43 AM

Hi Everyone,
My son is 19, and my daughters are in their twenties. Raising children is certainly not easy, and my mother claims you never stop worrying, because later you can have grandchildren to worry about. Maybe we should have a support group for parents with cancer and children. Often it appears they are OK, but I do think the cancer gets to them on some level. I also think sometimes that the children who talk the least about it are taking it the hardest and sometimes their fear manifests itself in different ways.

I often think of the scare that Al with his stepdaughter after Linda died.

Your stories are a parent's worst nightmare, and my heart goes out to you. Even if everything turns out OK, the fear you have until you know is horrible.

My heart goes out to you, Gloria. I hope you are getting support. Losing a child is one of the worst things imaginable. You have my greatest sympathy.

Lu Ann,
This may be a wake up call for your daughter. She probably won't listen to you about it, but if she continues to give you a hard time, I would get some help. Also, I would try to make sure that mother does not get away with this. She will probably try it again with another teenager.

Best wishes,
Barbara H.

koolbreeze · 08-14-2006, 07:19 PM

I know that I was one of those teenagers that drank quite a bit and got beligerant with my folks. I had to go through some rough times but I think had I had some tough love from my folks it would have helped. Instead they kind of turned a blind eye to my difficulty and I went through a lot of difficult and drunk years in my young adult life as a result. I ended up in AA in my early 20's and quit drinking competely for over 10 years. I am not blaming them, I guess they did the best they could but a tougher approach and maybe getting me some help early would have helped. Who knows for sure.

Teenagers can be so susceptible to adult influence and I hope you don't allow the adult in this situation to get away with exerting influence and providing alcohol to your daughter.

I wish you all success in dealing with this situation among every thing else you have to deal with. Hugs Kool

lu ann · 08-14-2006, 11:27 PM

Dear Chartermom, I am so sorry about your loss. My experience cannot compare to what you have been through. There is nothing I can say to make it better so I won't try. I will pray for you. Lu Ann

lu ann · 08-14-2006, 11:30 PM

Thanks to all of you who posted about my situation. As you can see from Chartermom's post, not all of us get a happy ending. God Bless and Love to all of you. Lu Ann.

callen03 · 08-17-2006, 02:07 PM

This story hit close to hom. A very nice lady in my Sunday school class was killed this weekend by a drunk driver. She left three children and a husband. All of the children were injured and in critical care. One is a teenager, the other is in intermediate school, and the youngest is in first grade. The two oldest are doing better, but the youngest remains in critical care.

The young man who hit them was only 24-years-old. He is currently being held for numerous serious charges including involuntary manslaughter. To add to the tragedy, several years ago his brother was killed when he ran off the road. Results showed that he was intoxicated at the time of death. Since then, his father has been an advocate against drunk driving.

Please share this with your children. Both families lives will never be the same, all because of "driving" while intoxicated.