mickey, have you seen these potential help sites?

mickey,
yea...there's alot in this life that I don't 'get' either!

ok, I am not sure what you're talking about when you say: "...sees that I have money, they won't help." But, if you mean you have a large amount of cash in a bank account, you can gift up to $11,000 a year without penalty... you could set up a trust acct of some type for your children. One in which you were able to make withdrawals for their benefit.

The point of that is to do a 'pay down' of your own account. Or you might be able to pre-pay some bills you know will be occuring regularly ie. rent/mortgage.

This may not be at ALL what you're talking about and if so, I apologize and ......... forget I mentioned it!! lol

And, what Lolly says is right on anyway, without making things complicated!

more hugs,
pattyz

[mickey]

Thanks, again. What I mean about having money, is that if I live, I have to have some amount for my kids and I to have each month and that is what I have. If I deplete that, there is nothing but the house. I could do fine if they let me pay $100 per month. There is a guy in Oregon that got taken to court and forced to pay his medical bills and had to sell his house, lost everything and was out on the street. I have tried working with the hospital but they refuse. I am sorry, this is not an appropriate subjuctand I will stop. My chances aren't good and then it will all stop.

[Susan M(PA)]

I would find a non-profit health care advocate to answer your questions,
some work with attorneys pro bono. I wish I knew of a specific group,
each works differently, possibly some of the links others have given
will refer you. I also agree, this should be the least of your concerns,
but I understand, and getting professional advice may be the best way
to ease your financial worries.

Susan M

[Lolly]

Good idea. Mickey, here's a link to such and organization:

Personalized Help—Direct Patient Services
http://www.patientadvocate.org/help.php

"Patient Advocate Foundation offers assistance to patients with specific issues they are facing with their insurer, employer and/or creditor regarding insurance, job retention and/or debt crisis matters relative to their diagnosis of life threatening or debilitating diseases. Our professional case managers and attorneys specialize in mediation, negotiation, and education, advocate on behalf of patients…"

[Lolly]

Perhaps more specific information from the Patient Advocate site:

http://www.patientadvocate.org/news.php?p=287

New Program for Insured Americans Assists with Co-Pays

Washington, DC, March 24, 2005 – Serious illness can be a financial catastrophe, even for patients with health insurance. Recognizing this need, the Patient Advocate Foundation has formally launched a program called Co-pay Relief (CPR), A Patient Assistance Program, designed to help insured patients with certain life-threatening or debilitating diseases cope with the significant out-of-pocket costs associated with their treatments.

[lu ann]

Dear Mickey, I am really sorry you have to deal with this on top of everything else. You shouldn't be burdoned with this. The system really stinks. My husband and I went to consumer credit before we got into trouble. We heard that the credit card companies were going to increase minimum payments. We knew we would not be able to afford the higher payments along with the increase of heating fuel and gasoline. We were told that because we were not delinquent with any of our accounts they could not help us. They did not come out and tell us, but they hinted that we should file bankrupsy. We made the appointment but never followed through because a co-worker of my husbands suggested we take a loan from his 401-k. We were able to borrow enough to pay all our credit cards, doctor bills, auto, etc. The amount we pay goes back into his account along with the interest. Our payments are high, but will be paid off in 5 years. We also will be having 100.00 taken out of each pay to be put into a medical savings account pre-taxed. It can be used for all medical expenses including over the counter meds. I don't know if any of this helps you. I'm just venting my frustration with the sytem. I will keep you in my prayers, though. Take care and God Bless You and Your Family this New Year. Lu Ann.

[mickey]

You guys are all so great. I feel moneyis not the issue here and am a little guilty for this conversation. Lolly, I will try that wed site. It is nice you are in my state. I have no income so there is nothing to borrow against and then pay back. All there is is assets to deplete to zero. I always made good financial decisions and had hopes of someday traveling. Those hopes are gone. Even if the cancer in the brain did some miracle, the money won't be there. Now I just don't want my children and I to be destitute and that is where I am headed. All can ignor this subject at anytime.

Mickey

[Alice]

Hi Mikey,

I'm truly sorry you have to deal with a hospital that won't be flexible.
I was looking at a similar situation as the doctors and hospital I am going to are not contracted with my insurance. This made things more and more complicated when there was no energy left to put towards of all things the mounting bills.
What I did in my case and I don't know you may have tried it was to talk to as many different people in the billing department every day until I found one that was willing to help and after that he was the only one I talked to. Any respectable institution should work with you, sometimes its a matter of finding the right person.
Have you talked to a social worker? Sometimes they know of options that are a little less well known. Also look into Medical if you are in California. They couldn't help in my case but they have a special provision for BC patients. The social worker should know about it.
I don't think you should be sorry for bringing this subject up. It is a great concern to people and I hope you get the help you need.