follow up standard of care

[momcat]

Changing doctors mid stream is a story in itself. I had a great oncologist, who moved 1200 miles away. She referred me to another doctor in the practice. We had a major philosophical difference. When I asked him, what were my chances of reoccurence, his reply was "it is in God's hands". Certainly true enough, and a most appropriate answer, from anyone but my doctor. He absolutely refused to address my question with any other answer.Another thread in the story is that my husband was also in treatment at the same time. This doctor was insistent that I make him understand he had very little time left with us. The poor dear was in complete denial, and made the decision to live, and die, that way. I did not feel it was appropriate, as I knew him and knew that denial was the route he chose. So I decided what I needed was a doctor who was a scientist, and my surgeon referred me to such a doctor. Well, she was able to provide me with the statistical answer (86% chance of no reoccurance) but I have just never bonded with this new doctor. And writing this all down, in some sort of order, leads me to the conclusion that I should probably schedule a follow up visit with my first oncologist! Sort of like your first true love?