Stupid Comments For $64,000

Margerie · 11-14-2007, 05:17 PM

After I told my MIL that I had bc and was going to have a mastectomy in a couple of days and then chemo, she said "Do you have to have a mastectomy? Or are there too many tumors? Because I was a nurse and all the mastectomy patients were in HORRIBLE pain for weeks." I went on to say the only bright side to mastectomy was I probably wouldn't need radiation (little did I know, I had a wad of + nodes) and she said "Well, that is good because if you have radiation, your hair will fall out and that will be just AWFUL!"

She never once asked how I was doing.

Joanne S · 11-14-2007, 07:45 PM

I can relate. I always called my mother-in-law, the mother-out-law, so cold and uncompassionate. Fortunately for me she passed away prior to my bc dx.

sassy · 11-14-2007, 08:06 PM

While I was without hair (BALD), I mostly wore hats. So my sons found a special one for Mother's Day. It read: "I'm too sexy for my hair--because it isn't there!"

I had one good zinger while on Chemo. I usually take the high road but felt my response to this one was warrented.

A student was asked to leave our school, and as is the case I get the unpleasant calls from the parent wanting to know what would happen to their money (They always fail to realize the responsibility of their child's action when asked to leave, and their misplaced anger is directed at us.) She called on Friday (my chemo day) and was old I was out of the office on Friday's. So bright and early Monday morning she calls me and tells me angrily that she had called me on Friday, but was told I was off on Friday's in the summer and THAT must be NICE!

I simply responded, "Actually, I take chemo on Friday's."

After a short pause, she stammered "OH, I hope that is going well." and her tone changed completely for the remainder of the conversation!