DEar Julierene -
VERY GOOD to see a post from you that things are smoothing out some and - MOST IMPORTANTLY - you are feeling a lightening of your load. Just taking away some of the terrible burden of stress will do wonders for you mentally and physically. (Take it from one who has been there & done that!)
I hope you have a good lawyer who will fight for you. If you have to show that YOU also have some support from family, then I would get them involved ASAP. Your husband sounds manipulative in keeping you in the shelter of HIS family who seem to spoil him a lot.
I think it is possible that your manipulative hubby is playing the "6 months" game to also avoid his obligation to support the kids. He will very likely be one of those dead beat dads who will never come through with his promises. I am sure he does not like the prospect of JAIL for that! He needs to stock groceries or ANYTHING else WHILE he gets his act together, if he really wants to start to get back on track financially! With this in mind, let your lawyer get on with things. You are too nice a person to be very hard on someone, so you need to let others step in and make the law work.
So, sweet lady, keep letting us know that you are getting through this tough time.
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"When I hear music, I fear no danger. I am invulnerable. I see no foe. I am related to the earliest times, and to the latest." H.D. Thoreau
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MY STORY SO FAR ~~~~
Found suspicious lump 9/2000
Lumpectomy, then node dissection and port placement
Stage IIB, 8 pos nodes of 18, Grade 3, ER & PR -
Adriamycin 12 weekly, taxotere 4 rounds
36 rads - very little burning
3 mos after rads liver full of tumors, Stage IV Jan 2002, one spot on sternum
Weekly Taxol, Navelbine, Herceptin for 27 rounds to NED!
2003 & 2004 no active disease - 3 weekly Herceptin + Zometa
Jan 2005 two mets to brain - Gamma Knife on Jan 18
All clear until treated cerebellum spot showing activity on Jan 2006 brain MRI & brain PET
Brain surgery on Feb 9, 2006 - no cancer, 100% radiation necrosis - tumor was still dying
Continue as NED while on Herceptin & quarterly Zometa
Fall-2006 - off Zometa - watching one small brain spot (scar?)
2007 - spot/scar in brain stable - finished anticoagulation therapy for clot along my port-a-catheter - 3 angioplasties to unblock vena cava
2008 - Brain and body still NED! Port removed and scans in Dec.
Dec 2008 - stop Herceptin - Vaccine Trial at U of W begun in Oct. of 2011
STILL NED everywhere in Feb 2014 - on wing & prayer
7/14 - Started twice yearly Zometa for my bones
Jan. 2015 checkup still shows NED
2015 Neuropathy in feet - otherwise all OK - still NED.
Same news for 2016 and all of 2017.
Nov of 2017 - had small skin cancer removed from my face. Will have Zometa end of Jan. 2018.
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