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You sound like me! I have awful problems not only asking for help but just accepting it when it is offered. A diagnosis of BC hasn't changed that - I still find it hard. My partner says that I am ridiculously independent. I have found though that people want to help, they don't necessarily know what to do or to say re breast cancer (or any other kind!) - I have had some strange remarks (I think the funniest one was someone telling me she knew just how I felt because she had a hysterectomy 5 years ago!) - but by doing something practical they feel they are helping and being supportive.
I went by train to radiotherapy (I live in the UK) and towards the end fell asleep both ways. You really shouldn't drive towards the end. Try very hard to accept the help - I used to think about turning into an outing for the person coming with me - lets have lunch, coffee and cake etc, bit of shopping - whatever - then it turns into a treat for them too. When my partner came with me we used to do a sightseeing thing - radiotherapy was in London. Somedays it was something very small but a little something to make me feel I was giving something back too - hope that makes a bit of sense.
Feel for you - it's hard.
Love
bjj
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