okay, so do you want the dish on the dates

[Joy]

Okay gals, word to the wise, if you are doing the internet thing meet for coffee rather than dinner. It is a much more finite amount of time and that is a good thing.

My first date was an evening thing and he was willing to drive an hour and a half. We had had a great deal of good phone conversation as well as e-mail. But on the date-not so much. It was so weird. As soon as I saw him walking my direction (he told me what he would be wearing on the phone as he was driving) I kind of wanted to pretend I was someone else (I know that is not nice). I could tell immediately that he wasn't my type-like I can be that picky.

But out here there is a lot of the rancher/cowboy thing, which for me is not appealing (not because I don't respect the work or anything-I think I'm just too metro or something).

Then the conversation felt a little strained which threw me because of our phone calls. And he kept saying that my pics didn't do me justice, which was nice, like once or twice, but several times. We walked around our old town area and eventually sat down in a pub. After 15 minutes of walking I was wishing I was home with my best friend (who is staying with me for awhile), drinking wine and watching something silly.

It was weird and he mentioned something kind of weird and gross 3 times between a phone call and our date (had to do with porn-I won't elaborate). One time there was kind of a segue, but the other two times there really wasn't.

WE left it at just leaving it, I guess. I was afraid to check e-mail the next day and when I finally did I realized that he e-mailed me shortly after getting home from our night saying he thought it was wonderful and we could do a good job of killing time together.

SOOO, the next day after work I met this other man for coffee. And I can't say there was an immediate physical attraction, but the conversation was lovely and an hour and a half flew by.

So when I got home from that and checked e-mail, he had e-mailed me as soon as he had gotten home and said it was enjoyable and the time flew and he was sorry he had to cut it short to go get his kids. To which I responded hat he never needed to apologize for tending to his children. He wanted to know, if I would like to do something else, like have dinner. I said sure and asked what kind of dinner and where and he said in my town at someplace kind of romantic where we could talk longer and share some wine. So we are going out Monday. And he called me and we have chatted a couple of ways since.

So I have no expectations, but I do think the dinner will be enjoyable. We definitely had more of the same tastes and experiences to share than the other man (and he didn't mention porn once!).

So that is the scoop gals-thanks for any interest. It is fun to chat with you guys about this kind of thing-and it is not even cancer!!!!!!