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01-20-2007, 06:10 PM
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Location: Minneapolis, Minnesota
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Broken heart
My 16 year old cat Fritz went to heaven at 5:30 tonight. His doctor came to the house to help him on his way. God Bless Dr. Jane.
He had heart failure and a tumor. My heart is breaking.
He was with me through it all. I told him that he could not leave me until I had my last surgery. That was yesterday. He was ready to leave today. He kept his word. So I kept mine to him.
So as I sit here with my new soft boobs (finally got the expanders changed out for the silicones) I have never felt so alone. My fiance is wonderful, but there will never be another Fritz and me.
How to go on
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01-20-2007, 06:30 PM
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Location: Naples FL
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It sounds like you had a sweet companion, and it went both ways. So sorry for your loss...pets are wonderful.
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 Suzan W.
age 54 at diagnosis
5/05 suspicious mammogram-left breast
5/05 biopsy-invasive lobular carcinoma with LCIS,8mm tumor,stage 1 grade 2, ER+ PR+ Her2+++
6/14/05 bilateral mastectomy, node neg. all scans neg.
Oncotype DX-high risk
8/05-10/05 4 rounds A/C
10/05 -10/06 1 yr. herceptin
arimidex-5 years
2/14/08 started daily self administered injections..FORTEO for severe osteoporosis
7/28/09 BRCA 1 negative BRCA2 POSITIVE
8/17/09 prophylactic salpingo-oophorectomy
10/15/10 last FORTEOinjection
RECLAST infusion(ostoeporosis)
6/14/10 5 year cancerversary!
8/2010-18%increase in bone density!
no further treatments
Oncologist says, "Go do the Happy Dance"
I say,"What a long strange trip its been"
'One day at a time'
6-14-2015. 10 YEAR CANCERVERSARY!
7-16 to 9-16. Extensive (and expensive) dental work done to save teeth. Damage from osteoporosis and chemo and long term bisphosphonate use
6-14-16. 11 YEAR CANCERVERSARY!!
7-20-16 Prolia injection for severe osteoporosis
2 days later, massive hive outbreak. This led to an eventual dx of Chronic Ideopathic Urticaria, an auto-immune disease from HELL.
6-14-17 12 YEAR CANCERVERSARY!!
still suffering from CIU. 4 hospitilizations in the past year
as of today, 10-31-17 in remission from CIU and still, CANCER FREE!!!
6-14-18 13 YEAR CANCERVERSARY!! NED!!
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01-20-2007, 06:47 PM
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Location: Minnesota
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Oh Kimber I am so sorry for your loss. Pets are just the best, just seem to know what we need when we need it. Fritz will always be chearing you on.......sending good thoughts your way.
Bobbi
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01-20-2007, 07:14 PM
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Location: Grand Rapids, MI
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I'm so sorry Kimber...
I know EXACTLY how you feel. My Chelsea, was with me through my dx, surgery, chemo, rads and part of Herceptin. She had a tumor, but after all that I went through, I couldn't hear those words again. Finally I took her to the vet and she confirmed that she had..."breast cancer". She was so warm and loving. This spring my son is getting his first puppy. Our friends can never be replaced, but I DO look forward to having a pet around again. Take care and God bless.
Rhonda
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Dx 2/1/05, Stage 1, 0 nodes, Grade 3, ER/PR-, HER2+ (3.16 Fish)
2/7/05, Partial Mastectomy
5/18/05 Finished 6 rounds of dose dense TEC (Taxotere, Epirubicin and Cytoxan)
8/1/05 Finished 33 rads
8/18/05 Started Herceptin, every 3 weeks for a year (last one 8/10/06)
2/1/13...8 year Cancerversary and I am "perfect" (at least where cancer is concerned;)
" And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years."- Abraham Lincoln
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01-20-2007, 07:27 PM
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Sorry Kimber
Hi Kimber,
I am so sorry to hear about Fritz. I know how heart breaking it is to lose a beloved pet. They are part of the family. His spirit will be with you always.
Take care.
Sincerely,
Liz J.
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01-20-2007, 08:38 PM
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(((Kimber))) So sorry to hear about the loss of your dear cat. My faithful little dog, Bailey, died in April at 14 and my heart was broken, too. She was always there for me throughout the cancer ordeal--Pets are so sensitive to your emotions and so loving. We have a new dog now and I love her, too, but she'll never take the place of Bailey...anyway, I think it's great how your cat stayed with you until you were finished with your surgery. You were both lucky to have each other! I know you're hurting, but you will get through this and in time, share your life with another wonderful pet. (If it helps, I read a few good books from the library on coping with the loss of a pet, you might want to check one out. I'll try to think of the titles..)
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Audrey
diagnosed July 2001, at age 36
large tumor, 11+ nodes
Stage IIIb, er/pr-, Her2+
treated with A/C, weekly Taxol
radiation, + year of Herceptin
on clinical trial. double mastectomy
followed by reconstruction
NED!!
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01-20-2007, 08:51 PM
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My cats made it to 19 and 20 years old. When they die it does leave a hole in your heart. There's nothing wrong with how you feel now. I know it does no good now, but eventually time will heal. You'll look back and see Fritz had a good life and remember the good. I'm glad he made it long enough to keep his promise. BB
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01-20-2007, 08:55 PM
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Sorry Kimber,
I have two cats and two dogs and love them so much. I have lost pets too.
It must just add to this difficult time in a painful way.
Still thinking about you being so close by. Send me a message sometime when you're feeling better.
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Cheryl
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01-20-2007, 09:08 PM
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I know how you feel my son and his girlfriend lost their pug at 7 months by a car. We took care of it while they both worked. Never had a pet before that. We were so heart broken as she was so sweet. We got one of our own, Yoda and we love him dearly, but he will never replace Bella. Its like loosing a child! Sending you a healing hug, Sandy
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Dx. 03/01, Rt. IBC
AC/Taxatere
Rt. MRM-with graft Lt. simple
5 rads-skin mets
Herceptin, taxol, carboplatin (taxol seem to be the magic drug)
Navelbine & xeloda (did not work)
topical miltex for skin mets
Tykerb/xeloda
thoracentesis x 2 left lung fluid shows cancer cells
Port removal (4 years) with power port replacement
Doxil
Updated 05-07 Scans show no bone or organ involvement we shall see!
I shall not pass this way again. Any good I can do or any kindness that I can show let me not defer or neglect it for I shall not pass this way again.
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01-21-2007, 12:09 AM
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Kimber, I'm a big animal lover, and I know how bad that pain can be when you have to say goodbye. Its almost un-bearable. Its so sad. Just as I was DX last year my 19 year old cat got to the point she couldn't hardly eat, or walk very well...she was ill. I had to have her put to sleep and it about killed me. So my heart really goes out to you. Just when you need them the most. Its so very hard to say goodbye to them.
I am so very sorry to hear about Fritz. I can only imagine how difficult that had to be for you at a time like this. Fritz might be gone...but one thing no one can take away from you is ALL the wonderful & happy memories of him. My heart really goes out to you.
I'll have you in my thoughts and prayers.
Chelee
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DX: 12-20-05 - Stage IIIA, Her2/Neu, 3+++,Er & Pr weakly positive, 5 of 16 pos nodes.
Rt. MRM on 1-3-06 -- No Rads due to compromised lungs.
Chemo started 2-7-06 -- TCH - - Finished 6-12-06
Finished yr of wkly herceptin 3-19-07
3-15-07 Lt side prophylactic simple mastectomy. -- Ooph 4-05-07
9-21-09 PET/CT "Recurrence" to Rt. axllia, Rt. femur, ilium. Possible Sacrum & liver? Now stage IV.
9-28-09 Loading dose of Herceptin & started Zometa
9-29-09 Power Port Placement
10-24-09 Mass 6.4 x 4.7 cm on Rt. femur head.
11-19-09 RT. Femur surgery - Rod placed
12-7-09 Navelbine added to Herceptin/Zometa.
3-23-10 Ten days of rads to RT femur. Completed.
4-05-10 Quit Navelbine--Herceptin/Zometa alone.
5-4-10 Appt. with Dr. Slamon to see what is next? Waiting on FISH results from femur biopsy.
Results to FISH was unsuccessful--this happens less then 2% of the time.
7-7-10 Recurrence to RT axilla again. Back to UCLA for options.
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01-21-2007, 03:08 AM
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Kimber I'm so sorry for your loss.
My cat basil died from a tumour during my chemo and it broke my heart as he was always with me right through.
Please feel glad you had such a wonderful companion and he loved you and had a good life with you.
In time the pain will ease and you may feel up to having another pet but we can never replace them.
I have other cats but none like Basil and know what you're going through.
I'm very sorry.
Tricia
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Tricia
Dx July '05 IDC 1.9cm Triple positive 3/9 nodes positive
A/C X 4 ..Taxol/Herceptin x 12 wks then herceptin 1 yr
Rads x 36 ..oophorectomy August '06
Currently taking Arimidex..
June 2011 osteopenia/ zometa x1 yearly- stopped Zometa 2015 as Dexa show normal bone density.
Stopped Arimidex July 2014- Restarted Arimidex 2015 for a further two years on the advice of my Onc.
2014 Normal Dexa scan
2018 Mammo all clear, still NED!
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01-21-2007, 07:45 AM
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Kimber - I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I am a "cat person", too. My 10 year old cat Princess has been there with me through my BC journey. The unconditional love and comfort that pets give is a unique gift from God. Please accept my condolences, and may your wonderful memories of Fritz help you through these sad times.
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Stage IIIC, 17 of 20 Nodes +, E+, Her2+++
Diagnosed 6/30/05
Lumpectomy 7/13/05
Dose Dense A/C x 4
Weekly Taxol + Herceptin x 12
Remainder of year Herceptin Every 3 weeks (completes 9/13/06)
Radiation completed 2/28/06
Currently on Tamoxifen
Dec 06 - Pleural effusion treated with pleurodesis
Now er/pr-, her2++
1/07 started weekly Navelbine plus Herceptin
Discontinued Tamoxifen
4/27/07 CTshowed progression
5/01/07 Began Tykerb/Xeloda + Zometa
5/22/07 Stopped treatment due to great progression
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01-21-2007, 09:02 AM
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Location: Ft. Collins, Colorado
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so sorry
Losing a pet is one of life's hardest things. And I know the heartbreak-it really, really hurts. I hope you will let yourself be sad and cocoon yourself. thank you for sharing with us.
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with love and gratitude,
joy
dx stage I 2/2000*er/pr+; her- per IHC*lumpectomy*4 rounds A/C*30 rads*tamoxifen*dx stage 4 5/2002*huge mets to liver*tiny mets to lungs*stopped tamoxifen*5/02 taxotere/xeloda*her 2 checked with FiSH-her2+++herceptin *2/03 stopped chemo femara w/herceptin*zolodex*04 switched to aromasin w/herceptin*05 high estrogen tx*11/05taxol/carbo*7/06 stopped chemo; megace/herceptin*9/06navelbine/herceptin*5/07tykerb/xeloda great response*4/08 progression in liver; ooph/ faslodex /herceptin
6/08 began Herceptin DM-1
9/08 progression
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01-21-2007, 10:29 AM
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Kimber,
I am sorry to hear of your loss...our pets are part of our family (sometimes
even better than family) they love us no matter what!
Know how you feel - remember all the good days you had with your pet
and embrace those happy thoughts.
Warmly,
Jean
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Stage 1, Grade 1, 3/30/05
Lumpectomy 4/15/05 - 6MM IDC
Node Neg. (Sentinel node)
ER+ 90% / PR-, Her2+++ by FISH
Ki-67 40%
Arimidex 5/05
Radiation 32 trt, 5/30/05
Oncotype DX test 4/17/06, 31% high risk
TOPO 11 neg. 4/06
Stopped Arimidex 5/06
TCH 5/06, 6 treatments
Herceptin 5/06 - for 1 yr.
9/06 Completed chemo
Started Femara Sept. 2006
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01-22-2007, 07:03 AM
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All my sympathy. I've been through it with my dogs. Blessings on your dear, departed Fritz. You might want to check out petloss.com.
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IDC, Stage I, Grade 2
Oncotype DX Score 32
Her2++ E+P+, Node Neg.
Lumpectomy 11/04/05 Clear Margins
3 Dose dense AC (Couldn't tolerate 4)
4 Dose dense Taxol & Herc. (Tolerated well)
36 weeks Herceptin (Could not complete one year due to decrease in MUGA score)
2 years of Arimidex, then three years of Femara
Finished Femara May 2011
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01-22-2007, 07:16 AM
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Sorry for your loss
I'm very sorry for your loss. I know how it breaks one's heart.
We had to say goodbye to our dear dog Lady (border collie-sheltie mix) on 12/29/2006 two days after my lumpectomy. She was just short of 19 years old and the true light of my life.
I still mourn the loss of my dear feline buddy Chubbs a few years ago who was with me for 15 years.
Know that Fritz is at peace.
Skeetur
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01-22-2007, 10:59 AM
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I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your loving pet. I lost a cat to cancer about 2 years ago and it was very heartbreaking. I did everything to keep him alive and was despondent when he got so sick that we had to put him to sleep. Pets are so precious and faithful. His spirit will be with you.
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01-22-2007, 11:06 AM
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Location: france
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sorry to hear about your sweet Fritz - our wonderful animal friends should live as long as we do.
hugs
sarah
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01-22-2007, 02:37 PM
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Location: Oklahoma
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So Sorry About Your Pet
My heart goes out to you over losing your cat. Scooter, my cat was with me all through the hardest part of my bc ordeal and we lost her a few months ago. She was 18 years old. Now my precious black Lab Dollie has a mass in her throat. She's 12 so I know it's not going to be long for her either. It's so sad because they do help us so much when there's no one else to cry with. We don't have to smile or keep up a brave appearance around them and they are so much comfort.
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DX 7-5-05, Age 54, Stage 1, Grade 2, ER+ (25%) PR- Her2 neu 3+
Lumpectomy 8-4-05, 2cm tumor, 3 nodes neg, Completed 4 A/C, 4 taxol, decadron (weekly due to steriod reaction) finished 4-17-06
Finished 33 rads 6-5-06, Femara, Started Herceptin 6-22-06
Effexor for hot flashes, Taken off Herceptin Feb 2007 due to low LVEF (44 by Echo) Coreg & Lisinopril replaced bp meds - April Echo back up to 55 Resumed Herceptin 5-21-07.
2010: almost 5 YRS NED!!! Still taking Femara & Coreg. Due to all the CT scans, abdominal aneurysm found & repaired. Something good came out of having cancer.
2013 7+ years NED. Still on Femara
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01-22-2007, 03:10 PM
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Kimber I replied to your post yesterday and am so sad to tell you I am in the same boat today.
One of my darling Mainecoon's leo was hit by a car and left at the side of the road earlier today.
I would'nt have known but for the kindness of a young woman who called me.
My two brave daughters carried himhome and buried him in our garden under the tree he loved to climb.
I'm heartbroken.
My daughter bought me the Mainecoon's last year when I lost my darling basil to cancer during chemo and although thery could never replace Basil I came to love them both but Leo was special.
I just wanted you to know I understand and am hurting with you.
Tricia
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Tricia
Dx July '05 IDC 1.9cm Triple positive 3/9 nodes positive
A/C X 4 ..Taxol/Herceptin x 12 wks then herceptin 1 yr
Rads x 36 ..oophorectomy August '06
Currently taking Arimidex..
June 2011 osteopenia/ zometa x1 yearly- stopped Zometa 2015 as Dexa show normal bone density.
Stopped Arimidex July 2014- Restarted Arimidex 2015 for a further two years on the advice of my Onc.
2014 Normal Dexa scan
2018 Mammo all clear, still NED!
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