PS. During rads I saw the doc once a week to make sure all was OK. I'm telling you just to let you know the level of interaction at a non HMO. My boob didn't fall off so I probably didn't need to be seen by a doc that often but it was reassuring. After rads and your next mammo you are going to feel more peaceful and hopeful. It gets better. Never back to where you were before but better. BB
Your's is the best perspective on relating to physicians I have ever read, and I've been in medical sales for 16 years. If you are a patient, you must be your own advocate. You gave great advice!