How can I look more appealing??depressed kat

[kat in the delta]

Well...I stopped cooking and he just brings home what HE wants to eat, never asking me if he can get me something.-so, NOT cooking has no effect......I don't think I am into calling an escort deal....but I could call some nice looking guys...the trouble is....I think HE would NOT get jealous at all, but he Would think of it as My being Sexy.......HOW do you men think, anyway ?? I could call and go and spend the weekend and he wouldn't care as much as I would......I guess I was brainwashed by the nuns in 1st-8th grades....MORALS ???Should I call someone?? I know a couple of single guys my age or a few yrs older. kat in the delta

[KathyA]

Hi kat. I too was raised and taught by the nuns. I understand your delima. Things sound really unbearable. My heart goes out to you. My first time around with bc my husband asked for a seperation. My reply , "couldn't you wait until I was finished Chemo to spring this on me." He waited. I felt like I should have said OK. The long and short of it was I went for therapy - to see what was happening - how to deal with everything - find out how I feel - what I want - what is best for me. It is best thing I ever did for myself. Find someone you can talk to easily and someone who listens carefully hearing what you say and not what they think. I am very fortunate to have found someone who is able to do this. Things will work out for the best. And that part the nuns said about praying it does help.

Sending warm thoughts, hugs and prayers

Kathy A