Clint, I totally relate to your wife. I was married to Mac last October. I was diagnosed with BC WITHIN 2 months of being married. His first wife had died from BC in 2009.
I HATE putting him through this AGAIN. My story is different than his first wife. I was blessed with early detection. I had STAGE 1 cancer (triple positive, BRCA2+). He has seen me through hell this year. Partial masectomy, chemo, herceptin, total hysterectomy, and double mastectomies with tram flap coming up on Friday. The first marriage was 4th stage with chemo and radiation and only 6 months until she died
She probably feels bad for putting you through the angst, anguish, and grief. Just love her through it. You are an awesome husband. Please consider counseling (couples therapy would be great).
God bless you!
Loren