Thanks for posting all this important info, Jackie.
It's true, most oncologists/surgeons do not delve into the effects that treatment will have on sexuality. I think maybe they're so focused on keeping us alive that they leave that sort of thing to social workers and counselors. The problem is, no one is telling us
in advance.
(And AlaskaAngel - that was a horribly unaware thing for your doctor to say - you are not in the minority by any stretch of the imagination!)
Since we're on the topic, for those of you thrown into early menopause - a healthy natural lubricant is coconut oil. This doesn't solve the libido problem of course - but it does help us to avoid the chemicals found in commercial lubricants.
Lisa
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