I'm Taking Care of My Mom

[Mary L]

Merry, you are a wonderful daughter and you are doing a great job and making your Mom's final days happy for her. She sounds like a very strong woman and you are also. Have you talked to her oncologist about Hospice? He would know when it is time. It might be helpful if they could come and give you a break every day. I took care of my sister at the end of her life and Hospice came everyday at the end and they would tell me to do something for myself for an hour. It is a very difficult thing to do but when you look back on the quality time you spent with your Mom, you be so glad that you were there for her. I will pray for your Mom and also you. Best Wishes!!! Mary L

[Merry]

Thank you very much for your kind words and thoughts. I try to do the best I can but sometimes I forget to be as nice as I can be and Mom and I will 'spar' like we have done all our lives but this time I can't just go home and leave her alone for a few days. Usually when that would happen, we'd not talk for a couple of days and then I'd call her to see if she wants to go shopping and we'd act like nothing happened. It's so different now but then I think the last thing I should do is treat her differently.
I'm walking a rope without a net and I'm happy I thought to see about cancer care message boards because I am alone in dealing with this pain, and it's a pain I never have felt before. Life is so good but it sure can suck sometimes.....