The what ifs

[juanita]

i don't have any plans made except for a list of songs and a few poems. but i have big manila envelopes full of letters to my husband and all 4 kids and 2 grandkids that i add to occasionally, like the days the grandkids were born telling them what they mean to me. my husband doesn't want to hear the what ifs either.

[Believe51]

Juanita, I love the letter idea. Ed has filmed himself recording songs he wrote for me. He also taped a special message just for me. Hope it is a loooong time til I watch that. How special this thread is. We have a journal and I am going to use excerpts from it when I write my book, or should I say finish my book!>>Believe51

[Jackie07]

When my Mother-in-law's health was declining, she persuaded my Father-in-law to buy long-term care insurance. They also picked up the plot and discussed about funeral arrangement. A little more than a year later, she was admitted to the nursing home after a brief hospitalization for congested heart failure (10 years after her triple bypass surgery.) She went to the nursing home to 'recuperate', and stayed there the past 3 1/2 years because of Alzheimer's.

My Mother-in-law passed away Monday morning in her sleep.

My Sister-in-law arrived at 12:30 am and relieved me from the nursing home. My Mother-in-law never woke
up from her sleep after I had left. That made me the last person to have a conversation with her. And it was the first time for me to experience a family member's death. We were glad that all the suffering is over and she had gone in peace.

Please keep all of us in your prayers. As we celebrate her life, we also grieve her passing. Just a couple of
years after I was married, I gave her a small heart-shaped frame that reads: "My Mother-in-law by chance, my friend by choice." I have lost a dear friend. And I'd like to share my grief with my other friends. Thank you for your prayers and support.