The what ifs

[Bill]

Nicola wanted to discuss certain details, and I listened, but was reluctant to discuss anything involving "failure" to beat her disease. I guess I was in denial. She wanted to go pick out her burial site, etc., but we gradually put things off until the next day, when she might feel better. That never really happened. She didn't want me to have to deal with things alone at the last minute, but that's the way it worked out. It's best to discuss and deal with those issues early on, when everyone is strong and clear on what they want. Most men don't want to consider failure and loss, so it's easy for us to put those things off until the next day, but that really doesn't help.