So long for now................................

[Erin]

Mary Jo,
I have only been lurking the last couple of months, as I have found spending too much time on the site makes me over-focus on bc, and keeps me from moving on with my life. But I had to reply to your post. I don't think you were out of line - what you said was not a personal attack, just an opinion on a point of view. You don't need to apologize to anyone. Everyone has the right to their views, including you!

You and I have exchanged comments on this issue before, and I share your sentiment. There are some posts I simply don't open since I know they will infuriate me. I choose to believe those posts are meant to be helpful, but they often come off like a lecture to me. I DO believe that a positive attitude helps, but I take issue with the idea that we can control the outcome of our situations primarily through our thoughts. In fact, a refusal to look honestly at the situation, a refusal to acknowledge our fear and grief, is not good either. I do not believe in "magical thinking" - talking about our fears does not make them real.

I have always loved your posts - you are so direct, funny, and refreshing. I hope you will come back when you are ready.