how do you deal with friends who aviod you?

[chemteach]

No one knows what to say or how to act. They are nervous and uncomfortable because it is a life threatening event. My friends were somewhat distant too until I started to talk about this whole process to them, and then the dialogue started. They will ask questions. I answered honestly and completely and was very open about all that I have gone through. Some want to know what it's like. Some what to know what your chest looks like, about the scars, the expanders, the new boobs and so on. Let them ask and show them whatever you are comfortable with. I am glad to share my experience with whoever asks because ignorance and fear can be lessened with someone who is in it. I have not changed as a person, but my body has, and true friends know that. Relax and let them know you're still who you are. I cannot be militant or overbearing about this disease, but I will offer my opinion when asked. People are people.....they can't help it.