Touchy subject here

[Ruth]

Sherry ~

Glad to hear that you will have a little peaceful time. I have a hard time thinking that it is all your responsibility and you need to take medication, be more understanding, walk away from arguments and go to counseling. I personally believe that there are many men out there who are absolutely fantastic and you don't need to fix yourself to get along with. Whats wrong with you other than you don't like to get yelled at? Who does???
I don't think you need to change yourself to make peace. You are dealing with a cancer diagnosis for crying out loud. He needs to speak to someone who can help him understand how to be a better husband in these circumstances! He needs to step up to the plate be the understanding one, kind one and considerate one ~ marriage is a two way a street. What made me sad in the last message was that you felt that you couldn't have fun with him and that he sabatoges it. None of us live in the home with you but if you are unhappy please help yourself. Don't accept it because you feel you have no options. There are always options in life.
These are my personal opinions and I understand that not everyone may agree with me.
Sending lots of hugs ~ Ruth