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Old 07-13-2009, 01:49 AM   #1
Kavy
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Marie,
I am so sorry to hear what happened to Ed. You are both in my daily prayers.
You are such a wonderful and devoted wife, there is no place for guilty. Ed is blessed to have you by his side.
I hope he is doing better, and that the side effects of Ixempra are mild this time. When will he start Temador?
As for me, I had my 12th treatment of Ixempra, and I just had a CT scan last Thursday. I will see the doctor on the 23rd to get the results. I also have been experiencing short of breath and cough lately. I will let you know the results.
A big hug for both of you.
KarlaV.
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Old 07-13-2009, 07:03 AM   #2
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Tears are stinging my eyes right now!

Marie and Ed, my heart is just a big ache right now, I'm praying so hard for you two.

Maire, you are a HERO and dont' ever forget that. What you have done for and are doing for Ed is more than anyone person should have to deal with.


Your both in my prays right now.

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Old 07-13-2009, 07:47 AM   #3
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Marie said:

I feel guilty about this, I am just sick about it. What the hell was I thinking?? I should be watching out for things like this. I held him as he was out and kept repeating that I love him and it's okay, I love you, I am right here. I felt so helpless sitting on the floor holding him.

Marie:

Being a caregiver is an extremely difficult thing to live through. You are taxed emotionally, physically, and mentally. Sometimes the emotional aspects of going through hard times will take a toll on your physical and mental abilities. Did you want Ed to be injured? Of course not! Do you have some sort of clairvoyance which could have seen this happen? Of course not!

You said you felt helpless sitting on the floor next to Ed, but that isn't the whole truth. You would be feeling helpless even if Ed wasn't injured. Ed's fall just brought to the front of your mind what you have been increasingly feeling for some time now.

Marie, you did nothing to feel guilty about. Even though you increasingly feel the wearing down of a loss of hope, you are still fighting. You are still praying. You are still caring. You are still doing everything that is humanly possible to help Ed through this difficult journey.

To be honest, I admire you. I love your fighting spirit. I love the care and devotion you have shown to Ed. If I were in your shoes, I would hope that I could be as strong as you. You have been in a tough enough battle, you don't need to make things worse for yourself by piling on feelings of guilt.

Marie, please take excellent care of yourself. Go find something to treat yourself with. You certainly deserve it.

Please know that we are by your side. You and Ed will be in our thoughts, hearts and prayers.

Lee


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This happened to Colleen:

Diagnosed in September 2007
ER-/PR-/HER2 Neu+++ 2.1 cm x .9 cm spicluted tumor with three fingers, Stage 2B
Sentinal node biopsy and lymph node removal with 3/18 positive in October 2007
4 TAC infusions
lumpectomy March 2008, bad margins
Re-excision on June 3rd, 2008 with clean margins
Fitted for compression sleeve July 16, 2008
Started the first of two TCH infusions August 14, 2008
Done with chemo and now a member of the blue dot club 9/17/08
Starting radiation October 1, 2008
life is still on hold
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