May I just say ...

[Jackie07]

One thing just came to my mind - in 'sexual harassment' cases, the proof lies in the victim's perception. Because everyone has different 'threshhold' to certain emotions, the majority will need to 'yield' to the minority, however unecessary it might seem.

Because of my brain surgeries and chemotherapies, I have some problem in the 'short-term' memory area. It is very hard for me to learn new tasks, especially the 'easy' ones that only take others 'seconds' to learn. [Because I won't have time to use my 'compensatory' skills and mechanism to lock it into my 'long-term memory.]

A couple of months after I joined the board in 2007 (?) during my recurrence, I realized that I had joined the board in 2003 (or 2004) during my first breast cancer treatment. I was busy attending teacher training classes in 2004 after my chemo and probably did not feel the need to visit the board. Part of the reason could also be my cognitive problems - I could have simply forgotten about it. (Now you know why none of the schools would renew my teaching contracts - it had become a 'safety' issue.)

Because of my own experience, I tend to think the members who had 'vanished' from the board are either no longer with us physically or just not feel the need to visit the board at the time.

It amazes me how much effort Joe and Christine have put into this Board. It amazes me even more how many brave souls are here daily to attend to each others' need. I have always believed in 'Love never fails'. And I believe and hope 'Love, keep us together." [Any Captain and Tennile fans out there? ]

[Chelee]

In all due respect to Steph & others I totally agree with Pink on this one. It's alright for people to express their feelings, but to be directly mean spirited towards someone is just uncalled for.

It’s just awful that we now have members that have to think twice about posting their good results, or an encouraging story of hope. We have several if not more people that are now afraid to post & that should concern all of us. I know what it feels like to not be comfortable posting here after someone criticized me harshly for asking a question once. Since that time I've never felt comfortable asking a question again. I absolutely hate the idea that anyone else on this board should feel the same way.

It’s so simple...if you don't like something just don't click on that link. This board is organized and set-up nicely. It makes it real easy to pick and choose what you are interested in reading. If someone has a personal issue with another...Joe also has that covered too...its called "Private message".

Closing the thread is not always the answer...everyone should have a right to be heard if they are being respectful to the others.

Let it be known that I like Andi's posts & I don't want others making decisions for me on what is allowed on this board & what's not. (With the exception of Joe & Christine)

Chelee

[Cannon]

I would like to say "oy vey."

What I like about online support groups as opposed to in person ones is that it is easy to take what you like, and leave the rest. There is no need to engage with anyone in a negative way.

What I like about this support group is
1) that it is very focused, on a particular type of breast cancer, that I have
2) that there are tales of hope and inspiration every day
3) that good news is celebrated
4) that people with bad news are supported
5) that there are SUPER knowledgeable people here willing to share their knowledge, expertise, and experience
6) that Joe and Christine bust their butts to make it possible

For some reason, there are group dynamics in any group like this, and some people project their own stuff onto other people, and some people take on stuff that isn't theirs. Try to let it go...

Rebecca

[MTome]

Dear members,

I was encouraged by Andi to join this site. I am a new member and was very inspired when I read Andi's post a couple of weeks ago. Reading all this just blows my mind, all this bickering is so childish and such a turn off to a new
member like myself honestly.I am dealing with stage 4 and to read all of Andi messages were very encouraging. Oh well. I wish you all well and god bless you.

[Ceesun]

I read Andi's original post and was inspired by it. Thinking of Andi, Christine, Stephanie, and others who are long term survivors gives me hope and encouragement while realizing some reach long term survivorship and others do not. I did not read and will not read all that has come from that post...the misunderstandings or whatever has come from it--seems to have undone the good that was meant. None of us who come to this board need more aggravation in our lives---we are all dealing with enough. I respect Pink Girl very much she and this website have been a Godsend to me. Let's not tear each other down, cancer does enough of that. I think Andi is trying to give us hope and encouragement. I welcome that. In Harmony, Ceesun

[vickie h]

Steph,
Thank you for your insight. As usual, your words are right on target. I missed the whole controversy (glad I did) but your added insight is refreshing.
Much love,
Vickie