People still just don't get any of *it*!

[Patricia]

Happy Cancerversary Chelee!!! May you have many many more!

We get it - big time! I felt as if my life restarted after cancer. I personally think about it as life 'bc' and 'ac'.

Don't let those 'friends' get you down, they are ignorant and if they had cancer you can bet that it would be a big thing for them. I have yet to meet a cancer survivor for whom it was not a big deal.

Hugs,
Patricia

[IRENE FROM TAMPA]

I know where you are coming from Chelee- that is why I rely on this board so entirely.

Although my family and my friends are "there" for me, I still feel sometimes people are tired of hearing me complain (which I really do not do often) but still there are times. I have to say that I have been "around" for a good 12 years now- (will be celebrating my 12th year now in a few weeks) which is a very wonderful thing don't get me wrong. But after so many years I think people just get used to it if I can say it that way without sounding sour. To me it's a constant thought in every thing that I do but really what can anyone say.They are supportive but I guess there are times when I have a pity party for myself and think someone should come up to me a say WOW lets have a great big "survivor" party for you. YOU DESERVE IT. I also get those comments once in awhile about well we are all going to die at some point. DUH - but our fate is staring us right in the eye daily.

I dont usually rant on like this Chelee but your post got me to thinking about how I feel sometimes and thought I would use this opportunity to vent a bit of my honest feelings too.

Basically I feel that everyone means well, they just don't know what to say. We are all loved and everyone is thinking about us but there is nothing they can do to save us and I know this must bother them - just be there for us when we need them. They are very scared also. I find myself being the comforter many times instead of the comforted.

So just remember Chelee - we all love you and CARE and so do those around you. I think it's might just be more difficult for them to show.

You take care and enjoy your CANCERVERSARY.

[StephN]

Sending you the best healthy wishes for getting through Canserversary number two. May you see three, four, five and many more after that. Sometimes we suffer in silence, but we can also CELEBRATE our achievements in silence as well. Enjoy yourself for YOURSELF.

No one knows but YOU what your life with cancer has been like. For each it is different, but we will share your joy in passing the TWO YEAR mark as NED. Keep dancing with that guy!

P.S. Many people have NO idea of the importance of getting to TWO years NED for our diagnosis. Maybe you can educate your "friends."

[RobinP]

The wonder and glory of this board is that there are others like you who do totally get it. This board was the only group of people would congradulated me on my five year anniversary. I announced it to my family, but they failed to acknowledge it at all. Having said that, congradulations to all on their cancer anniversary and know we here are fighters and survivors so live life to its fullest, knowing we worked to be here, unlike many in this world who just take life for granted. We truly know what it means to live and give.

[suzan w]

Happy Cancerversary!!! And, I "get it" like evereyone else here. I could go on and on about how it hurts my feelings when people don't..."get it". And I say that because, even before cancer, I think I am the type of person who "gets it"!! I have had friends and family who have been hit with a major life crisis and I sent cards, made phone calls, cooked casseroles and on and on, yet these same people do not respond in kind. And quite frankly, I just don't understand!!! So, the Her2 SUPPORT Group is just what it says...SUPPORT!!! It has become my support system because we all care about each other and your milestone is my milestone!!!

[WomanofSteel]

Happy, Happy two years! Wishing you many more!