husband support

[SusanC]

Deb-Steph,
I read your post and I had to laugh. My husband does everything he can. He will get the kids, drive them everywhere, do the shopping, pick up dinner and clean. One thing he had a hard time with is talking about breast cancer. The other day, a "down in the dumps" day, five days out of chemo...I was crying and lying in bed. I had said that I can't do it anymore. He just stood over me, nearly expressionless. I fiqured he was just cold and didn't have any feelings. Then, I just turned to him and said " you have no idea what to do right now, do you?". He said, in a panic, "I have no NO IDEA what to do or say". "I want to be here for you but I have no clue how to handle this". It was as if he needed to be told how to respond. I am not very emotional so we haven't had to deal with emotional issues/support. It was then that I realized that he wasn't equipt to handle this. We are talking more about what I need from him and then he provides what he can. It has been better since we worked that out. Does that make sense? Some men have no idea what to do. They feel helpless.
Take care,
Susan