***Thank you everyone***

[RhondaH]

for all your stories, suggestions and support regarding my son. The KICKER...Yesterday my mother and I took Tony (5yo) to the pediatrician who asked him what happened. Tonys reply "I touched someones private parts". Doctor asked him "Why"? His reply "I don't know". Doctor asked me to tell him what happened and I told him that Tony should explain (I find out something prior to go to the doc and wanted Tony to tell him). Tony told doc that he and another boy were playing house, he the dad, the other boy the mom and he patted the other boy on the behind. Doc, LOOKED at us like "HUH"... and asked Tony, "So you touched his biscuit?" Tony said "Yes". Doc asked him "Did you touch him in front?" Tony said "No". By now the pediatrician is looking at us like "Why are you here"? After THOROUGHLY reassuring us that WE are doing everything right and that Tony is a WONDERFUL little boy and that the daycare over reacted, he sent us on our way. So mom and I dropped Tony back off at daycare and while my mom left to run home and get his swimsuit, I talked to the teacher (graduated from MSU with a bachelors in early childhood development as well as this is one of the TOP...and it had better be for the price I pay...daycares in the area) and in the course of our discussion I told here what Tony told the doc, her reply to me "Thats not where the OTHER boy told me he touched him"...I looked at her and asked "So you didn't even SEE what happened?" By the look on her face to this question, she replied "No". I know how I felt and just wanted to leave so as I was driving back to work, the more I thought about it, the more upset I get and I (and it takes a LOT to upset me) started crying. Here after her TORMENTING my son and telling him he could go to jail if he were older and did that, "issolating" him from the other kids at rest period until he "earns" back their trust, my grounding him from playing with the neighbor kids for 2 days, NOW I find out that this was merely the word of ANOTHER 5yo boy (and I'm not saying that the other boy "lied", but Tony has NEVER lied to me and I in NO way prompted him "where" he touched him, I just let HIM tell me and then I asked him "where" and he patted his bottom and not only that but maybe Tony brushed up against him accidentally or a MILLION other things) telling them that "Tony touched my private part" and they never even asked Tony his side. I picked up my cell phone (crying) and I called the center and asked to speak to his teacher who got on the phone and she tried calming me down and NOW she said she just pulled Tony aside to talk to him about his doc visit (NOW she wants to talk to him, not when it first happens or BEFORE he is punished) and he told her what was said, she said for me to relax, everything is ok, I'm a good mom, Tony's a good kid, he is not "really" isolated from the other kids (asked him when we came back from docs if he wanted to play a game with someone else at rest period)...think SHE knows that she made a HUGE mistake, HMMMMM...OHHHH, I was mad...thank goodness he starts all day kindergarten in Sept. Needless to say when I picked him up from daycare, we went STRAIGHT to Toys r Us, had pizza for dinner, ice cream for desert, he got to play outside with his friends AND stay up late.