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Hi everyone and Happy Mothers Day to all.
I hope I am not spoiling the festivities but I need some help with a serious topic. Since I am the compulsive type, I have been giving alot of thought as to what my wishes will be when the time comes to stop treatment.
But I am torn and could use some advice.
My preference would be to be comfortable at home and quite frankly not to linger too long and then be on a morphine drip coma with a catheter. My husband feels that with 2 kids at home, it would be unfair to them to have me die at home. He feels that having them see me dwindle each day would be traumatic and that after I am gone, it would be hard for the kids to be at home where I died, that home would no longer feel safe to them. I can understand his point but on the one hand, I feel like I want to be selfish and have my needs met. On the other, I don't my kids to have to follow every little step of my dying and if I were in the hospital, they could pick when they felt they wanted to come.
I don't even know who to speak to about this. Any ideas? My oncologist was not very helpful in this discussion and made it quite clear that he could only go with the morphine drip approach.
Sorry to bring this up. While I am not yet at the point of stopping treatment, I am surely running out of effective options and I want to have my wishes known quite clearly beforehand.
Any ideas/opinions would be appreciate.
Sarah
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