Newly Diagnosed - Confused.

I was diagnosed in Nov.; lumpectomy Dec. 3: 1 c.m., ER+, Her2+ and high grade. I have had two meetings with an oncologist who advises radiation and tamoxifin or arimidex, but not chemo. However, I have gotten mixed messages from other doctors and am very confused. I dread chemo, but instead of an 86% chance of no recurrence, would have about a 90% chance of no recurrence--according to the oncologist. I am seeking a second opinion--can't see second onc. until 1/27. I would like to talk with other women who have had to make similar decisions, but, as mentioned above, I must have goofed when I posted.

Thank you for this website! I went to a cancer support group (very nice and positive women!) of about 12 and only one woman had even heard of her2neu. I am still confused about how "bad" it really is--especially when combined with "high grade."

Thanks again,
Marianne
San Francisco