Possible Lung mets need prayer and help

I was dx sage 4 in Aug 2003. I'm 39, with young kids, age 8, , and 9 months I started taxol and herceptin in Sept -- good response. A mass in my abdomen lymph node and my breast and axilliary lymph cleared up.

however, in january CT svan mulitple small nodes showed up in my lungs. Too small to biopsy. Didn't show up on the PET.

I did another CT yesterday, small nodes in lungs still present.

my oncologist wants to switch me to taxoere/herecptin weekly.

Questions:
1. Has anyone had experiences with taxotere? Side effects? My doc says I won't need the benadryl pre-meds with taxotere.

2. I need help thinking postively -- dont' know what to think about these smll lung nides -- if the are, in fact mets - has anyone had success with treating them with taxotere.

3. My nails are already a mess from taxol -- will taxotere continue this trend.

Thanks in advance or your answs and prayers - I enjoy reading the board.

tanya in mn