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My wife just had a lumpectomy. 1.4 centimeters. Nodes were negative. Tumor was HER pos 3+. Oncologist wants to do the standard chemo treatment. No Herceptin because of possible side effects. Dr. stated that the side effect risk is greater than the risk of reacurrence of the cancer. I don't know. Have any of you been there and done that?
Thanks.
Addendum:
My wife will be taking A/C chemo and radiation. She had clear margins. What I meant by "been there and done that" was, has anyone NOT done Herceptin with a HER 3+ pos. and did just the standard chemo and radiation and had long term success? I know from reading your stories that you all have "been there and done that" in one way or another. Thank you for this message board.
P.S.My wife tells me that her oncologist does not want to use Herceptin as a prophylactic at this point. If there ever comes a time when there is reoccurence, then she would use it. Has anyone used Herceptin as a prophylactic?