ideas for friend

[juanita]

got another co-worker, i've written about her before probably. last april she found this lump and after an inconclusive biopsy they did surgery and removed the lump which turned out to be infection. she said it has hurt since then. and a month or so after surgery she had to go back on antibiotics because she had another infection there. she's not physically abused but emotionally so she hasn't felt "worthy" of having it all taken care of or to be forceful about getting the treatment she needs. anyway, a month ago the infection got so bad it split open the incision scar. the surgeon wants to wait and see if it goes away on more antibiotics. she blames him for the whole thing anyway because it was just an infection and she thinks they shouldn't have done surgery. right now she's looking into switching to a different doctor, if we can stay after her to follow through. so has anybody heard of infections like this? she also had a mass on her renal gland on her kidney that she hasn't taken care of. and now she's just afraid to find out about that, she's afraid of bad news. i have tried to convince her, even offered to go with her, but these doctors just keep telling her to wait. please help with any ideas on what to tell her to convince her to go in or what could be behind this.