Failed Xeloda...now what

[Sheila]

After 1 year of fairly good response, Xeloda has stopped working on me...I was taken off 2 weeks ago....it was a combo of worsening side effects and no shrinkage of neck nodes....so now it is on to Abraxane....my onc. wants the Xeloda to be out of my system totally (the side effects) before adding the Abraxane to my Herceptin. She is not ready to use Tykerb yet as the Herceptin is keeping things contained to the neck nodes. I am disapointed as Xeloda has been easy...hoping the Abraxane will do the trick, or at least keep me stable. She is planning on doing the Abarane every 3 weeks with the Herceptin, even though news from San Antonio said weekly was as good if not better. She said she has not seen this in her patients, that the better response is every 3 weeks. So just wondering from all you Abaxane Divas out there, what to expect as far as side effects....to me, preparation is important. I am hoping my veins hold out, I have been through 4 years of treatment without a port, but my veins are scarring so that may be next. This news and change is coming at a tiome where I feel emotionally and physically exhausted...my best friend is still hanging on but barely there, little or no response. I still go to be with her every day if possible, I know the end is near, but I am still not prepared to let her go. Are we ever?
Thank you all for all your prayers for her...my hope now is that she can go peacefully, watching her slip away slowly has taken a toll.
Again, thanks for your prayers and any advice you can give me on Abraxane...hair loss, nausea, energy level....you are the best resource!!!!!!!!