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My mom started to feel really sick after her herceptin infusion a week ago thursday. We thought it would pass, but finally took her to the hospital 2 days ago as her stomach started to really bloat. She has been admitted and the dr is pretty sure there is some sort of blockage in her liver (which is where her mets are). They are going to run more tests to see exactly where or why the blockage is occuring and then do what needs to be done. I have been trying to do some research on this topic, but I can't seem to find any info- does anyone have any experience with this? I can't help but feel that this is a bad sign. I know good things can still happen, but it hard not to lose hope. Spirit wise, my mom is not doing well, and I don't really know how to help. Emotionally I am not doing well (I am 4 days overdue, so my hormones are everywhere, and I am finding this hard to deal with, never mind being uncomfortably pregnant), so it is sometimes hard to support her. I had wanted her there at the birth, and I know she is now really upset that she will probably miss it. Anyways, I guess we just need to wait and see what the results of the lastest tests are, and then go from there.

Thanks

Karyn

Karyn,
I'm so sorry about your Mom and hope that she is better soon. I don't have any words of wisdom, but I'm sure that you will get some info from the ladies/guys here. I just wanted to say that I'll keep you and your Mom in my thoughts and prayers.

~hugs

I just saw your post. I hope by now you have some answers. It's so hard to watch your mom get sick. It sounds like her dr. is on top of things. There are lots of stories of women bouncing back after serious liver disfunction. I'm one of them. Don't lose hope.
Cathy W

I don't know either....just wanted to offer gentle hugs. It has got to be so hard going through your pregnancy when your mom is facing such a crisis....

I know how you must be feeling. My Mom had cancer and was dying when I found out I was pregnant. It was such a strange time, having a new life inside me and seeing my Mom slowly float away from me. I know that your Mom is probably no way near dying yet, so don't lose hope. There is so much that can be done these days. Much more than we realize. I know women who have had mets for over 9 years and are still doing fine. They have the odd crisis every now and then, but so far have bounced back.

On the other hand, I would like you to tell my story, because it may help a little. My Mom had cancer and she heard she wasn't getting better, and she asked us - my father, my sister and myself - to come over. She explained that she needed to start preparing for her passage into the next world. She couldn't do that if we didn't let her go. So we decided to spend as much time with her as we could. We took turns staying with her overnight and on the last night of her life I slept in the bed next to hers. When we woke up, we were both feeling sick; she from her cancer of the esophagus, me from morning sickness. We looked at each other, both looking green in the face, and grinned. "It's time for me to go now," she said, so I called my sister and father. I think she took an extra morfine patch that day, and she just slowly seemed to float away. She said goodbye to my 3 year old son and closed her eyes. When she finally passed away that night, she was still holding the rosebuds my son had picked for her. It was all very peaceful and - strange though it may sound - it was a beautiful experience. My sister had more trouble letting her go, but she agreed it was the best thing we had done for her at the end.
When I gave birth, 7 months later, it was as if my mother was there with me in the room. If there is a heaven up there, I am sure she is keeping an eye on us and enjoying every minute of it.

Now I really do hope your Mom will be there to hold your baby when it is born, but if she isn't, you can be sure that she is watching over you. She wouldn't miss it for the world.