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11-29-2007, 01:36 PM
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Please pray
I just wish that we could get a break  this is all just so much to deal with.
My mum has not gotten over her infection she is still intubated and on the vent and it does not appear that she is going to recover from this
She has been intubated for almost a month, they normally want you off after 14days. She was doing so well and then this stipid infection came
The oncologist can not and will not treat her unless something drastic happens to improve her as chemo will kill her.
It is a no win situation as why we are treating the infection and not the cancer the cancer is spreading
So we are facing serious tough decisions in the next few days as my mum is requiring more and more oxygen. We have talked with the pallitave care team and they explained that she can not go home as she is requiring to much oxygen 85% they explained what would happen to her when/if we remove the tube.
We just dont want to have to make that decision. It is all so unfair. Please pray that she is in no pain and that whatever we decide and whatever happens is for the best.
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11-29-2007, 02:03 PM
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Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: RHODE ISLAND
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You can count on my prayers...
Continued prayers for not only mum, but for the family and friends whom love her. I cannot imagine what you are feeling, I have never had to make such a tough decision. May she be without that pain and torment you describe. I shall pray for you to find comfort no matter what the decision is. Love and prayers>>Believe51
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11-29-2007, 03:20 PM
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Location: Native Californian
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So sorry
I'm so sorry you are going thru this. I was in a similar situation with my mom. Her heart was only at a 12% efraction after stopping completely in a department store. Dr's claimed she wouldn't make it and wouldn't even say if she would live a day or a week. Well, she ended up making fools of them with her strong will. She lived happily another 2yrs before of all things cancer invaded her and they could do nothing for her. Hold on to your mum and never give up, enjoy every minute with her,holding her hand and talk and kiss her often. I'm thinking and praying for you,your family and friends thru this very difficult time...
Cat
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11/06 DX Invasive ductal carcinoma, right breast
Stage 1 T1c, NO,MX
1.1 cm
Grade 3
Lumpectomy with additional removal for clearer margins.
ER-,Her2+ strongly positive
Mammosite Radiation (Felt very lucky to have this)
6 rounds every three weeks of Taxotere,Carbo and Herceptin
Will continue with Herceptin until Jan this year...
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11-29-2007, 05:06 PM
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I will keep you mother in my prayers. Hang in there.
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Stage IIIC Diagnosed Oct 25, 2005 (age 58)
ER/PR-, HER2+++, grade 3, Ploidy/DNA index: Aneuploid/1.61, S-phase: 24.2%
Neoadjunct chemo: 4 A/C; 4 Taxatore
Bilateral mastectomy June 8, 2006
14 of 26 nodes positive
Herceptin June 22, 2006 - April 20, 2007
Radiation (X35) July 24-September 11, 2006
BRCA1/BRCA2 negative
Stage IV lung mets July 13, 2007 - TCH
Single brain met - August 6, 2007 -CyberKnife
Oct 2007 - clear brain MRI and lung mets shrinking.
March 2008 lung met progression, brain still clear - begin Tykerb/Xeloda/Ixempra
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11-29-2007, 07:27 PM
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Location: New Jersey
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very sad
Dear Nicola,
I am very sad to hear your news of your Mother. Please know that you are doing everything possible for her and she knows that. I will keep her
and you in my prayers.
Jean
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Stage 1, Grade 1, 3/30/05
Lumpectomy 4/15/05 - 6MM IDC
Node Neg. (Sentinel node)
ER+ 90% / PR-, Her2+++ by FISH
Ki-67 40%
Arimidex 5/05
Radiation 32 trt, 5/30/05
Oncotype DX test 4/17/06, 31% high risk
TOPO 11 neg. 4/06
Stopped Arimidex 5/06
TCH 5/06, 6 treatments
Herceptin 5/06 - for 1 yr.
9/06 Completed chemo
Started Femara Sept. 2006
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11-29-2007, 07:56 PM
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Join Date: Nov 2005
Location: Lincoln, Rhode Island
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Dear Nicola,
I am praying for your mom take care my dear.
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Love and Hope
Karen
IDC
DX 1998 STAGE I ER+/ PR+
AC CHEMO TILL FEB 1999
Tamxofin till 2001
2001 exstensive liver mets and mets to lungs
Started weekly taxol
Jan 2002 found out I was strongly HER2POS+++ started herceptin continued with taxol and herceptin till June 2002 then from June 2002 till Jan 2005 just herceptin and Arimidex
2005 Navelbine herceptin had RFA Then back on taxol with herceptin
April 2006 progression again went on clinical trial with tykrerb/herceptin progressed on the started Xeloda/ herceptin
Feb 2007 started Doxil
August 2007 Taxotere,Carboplatin and Herceptin exstensive mets to liver and pancreas
October 2007 Had to stop Carboplatin due to sever allergic reaction
Jan 2008
Stopped Taxotere due to progression now on Gemzar and Herceptin
March 2008 Starting Carboplatin, Abraxane, and Herceptin.
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11-29-2007, 08:38 PM
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Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: Marengo, IL
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Nicola,
I am sorry this is so late. I am having computer problems, very slow on our site. I tried several hours ago to get a message to you but was unsuccessful.
First, thank you for keeping us informed about your Mum during this very difficult time for you and your family. Many of us have been thinking and praying for you. I am so sorry to hear your Mum, you and your family are struggling with such issues. I can't even imagine what you are all going through. But one thing stands out, the love you have for your Mum. Please remember Cat's reply. I hope the same for you.
I will pray for what is best for your Mum and that she is not in pain. May God provide you all with comfort and wrap you in His arms of love.
Donna
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Crystal Lake, IL
Diagnosed 8/4/06 at age 54
Lumpectomy 8/30/06
Stage llA, grade 3, ER/PR-, Her2++
1.7 cm tumor, 1+ lymph node out of 9
Completed 4 A/C, & 4 Taxol with Herceptin
36 rads completed 5/16/07
Mammograms, 7/07 clear
fractured ribs in radiated area 10/07
Finished Herceptin 12/27/07
Mammogram,CT,tumor markers 1/08 - small lung nodules in radiated area, repeated tests 3/08 stable
Mammogram,CT ,tumor markers 6/08 stable
NED 2 years!!
3 years !!!
4years!!!!
4 years, 10 months and 8 day NED, calling it 5 years!!!
Official 5 years 8/30/2011
8/31/ 2012 - 6 years!!!!!!
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