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10-08-2006, 08:55 PM
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A day like no other. My Daddy is gone.
Friends,
Thank you all for your prayers a few days ago. Today, I need them again. My father lay down to take a nap and never woke up. He was 83, had moderate Alzheimers and diabetes, but was happy. He sat in his chair reading and listening to music all day. My mother, who has been in lots of pain from arthritis and unknown other causes did all the caretaking. I live just a few blocks a day. Fortunately, my brother and his partner were visiting from NYC. Last night we all had a great dinner at Chili's, they went home, we kissed each other goodnight.
This morning he awoke with a bad cough, unable to keep food down, and went in for a nap. When my mother went to his room to give him his p.m. pills, he was already gone. Mel was called, he rushed over to give CPR, everybody tried to find me, but I was shopping without my cell phone. Actually, I'm glad I couldn't be reached until I arrived back at their house. I was able to say goodbye, tell him I love him all before they came to take away his body.
I don't know what my mother will do now.
Dear God, please cover both parents with lots of love and light, and guide my 85 year old mother along her path.
Thanks for letting me share.
Love and light,
Lisa
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10-08-2006, 09:40 PM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: Acworth, GA
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Lisa,
My deepest sympathy to you and your family. Please take comfort in the fact that your father went peacefully and did not suffer. Your mother will probably lean on you for strength since you live close by. You and your family will be in my prayers. God bless you.
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Stage IIIC Diagnosed Oct 25, 2005 (age 58)
ER/PR-, HER2+++, grade 3, Ploidy/DNA index: Aneuploid/1.61, S-phase: 24.2%
Neoadjunct chemo: 4 A/C; 4 Taxatore
Bilateral mastectomy June 8, 2006
14 of 26 nodes positive
Herceptin June 22, 2006 - April 20, 2007
Radiation (X35) July 24-September 11, 2006
BRCA1/BRCA2 negative
Stage IV lung mets July 13, 2007 - TCH
Single brain met - August 6, 2007 -CyberKnife
Oct 2007 - clear brain MRI and lung mets shrinking.
March 2008 lung met progression, brain still clear - begin Tykerb/Xeloda/Ixempra
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10-08-2006, 10:17 PM
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Location: .
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Dear Lisa
I am sorry to hear your sad news. Am thinking of you.
love
lindaw
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10-09-2006, 01:06 AM
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Dear Lisa,
I am so sorry to hear of your Father's passing. I know how much it must hurt, as I still grieve over my Dad, and he died in 1992. I suspect it might be even tougher for a woman to lose her Dad, as they have a very special relationship. My prayers are with you and your Mom as you endure yet another difficult journey.
Sincerely,
Tom
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10-09-2006, 03:09 AM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Grand Rapids, MI
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Lisa...
more prayers are on the way. Take care and God bless.
Rhonda
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Dx 2/1/05, Stage 1, 0 nodes, Grade 3, ER/PR-, HER2+ (3.16 Fish)
2/7/05, Partial Mastectomy
5/18/05 Finished 6 rounds of dose dense TEC (Taxotere, Epirubicin and Cytoxan)
8/1/05 Finished 33 rads
8/18/05 Started Herceptin, every 3 weeks for a year (last one 8/10/06)
2/1/13...8 year Cancerversary and I am "perfect" (at least where cancer is concerned;)
" And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years."- Abraham Lincoln
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10-09-2006, 04:36 AM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Morris, IL
Posts: 3,507
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Lisa
I am so sorry to hear about your Father. I think it is so hard to lose a parent, regardless of their age, we feel like they should be around to keep us safe forever. My prayers are with you and your Mom, that you will find strength to get through your sadness.
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Hugs & Blessings
Sheila
Diagnosed at age 49.99999 2/21/2002 via Mammography (Calcifications)
Core Biopsy 2/22/02
L. Mastectomy 2/25/2002
Stage 1, 0.7cm IDC, Node Neg from 19 nodes Her2+++ ER PR Neg
6/2003 Reconstruction W/ Tissue Expander, Silicone Implant
9/2003 Stage IV with Mets to Supraclavicular nodes
9/2003 Began Herceptin every 3 weeks
3/2006 Xeloda 2500mg/Herceptin for recurrence to neck nodes
3/2007 Added back the Xeloda with Herceptin for continued mets to nodes
5/2007 Taken Off Xeloda, no longer working
6/14/07 Taxol/Herceptin/Avastin
3/26 - 5/28/08 Taxol Holiday Whopeeeeeeeee
5/29 2008 Back on Taxol w Herceptin q 2 weeks
4/2009 Progression on Taxol & Paralyzed L Vocal Cord from Nodes Pressing on Nerve
5/2009 Begin Rx with Navelbine/Herceptin
11/09 Progression on Navelbine
Fought for and started Tykerb/Herceptin...nodes are melting!!!!!
2/2010 Back to Avastin/Herceptin
5/2010 Switched to Metronomic Chemo with Herceptin...Cytoxan and Methotrexate
Pericardial Window Surgery to Drain Pericardial Effusion
7/2010 Back to walking a mile a day...YEAH!!!!
9/2010 Nodes are back with a vengence in neck
Qualified for TDM-1 EAP
10/6/10 Begin my miracle drug, TDM-1
Mixed response, shrinking internal nodes, progression skin mets after 3 treatments
12/6/10 Started Halaven (Eribulen) /Herceptin excellent results in 2 treatments
2/2011 I CELEBRATE my 9 YEAR MARK!!!!!!!!!!!!!
7/5/11 begin Gemzar /Herceptin for node progression
2/8/2012 Gemzar stopped, Continue Herceptin
2/20/2012 Begin Tomo Radiation to Neck Nodes
2/21/2012 I CELEBRATE 10 YEARS
5/12/2012 BeganTaxotere/ Herceptin is my next miracle for new node progression
6/28/12 Stopped Taxotere due to pregression, Started Perjeta/Herceptin
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10-10-2006, 04:38 AM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Feb 2005
Location: LI, NY
Posts: 660
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Dear Lisa - I am so sorry for your loss. I know there are no words to make this any better for you and your family (especially your mom). I am sure your dad is dancing (or playing poker) with the angels...
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Maryann
Stage IV Inflammatory BC 1/00
Mod Rad Mastectomy 24nod/5+
Adriomycin Cytoxin Taxol
Tamoxifen 4 1/2 yrs
Radiation - 32 x
Metastatic BC lung/liver 10/04
thorocentesis 2x - pleurodesis
Herceptin Taxatiere Carbo
Femera/Lupron
BC NED 4/05
chemo induced Acute Myeloid Leukemia 5/06
Induction/consolidation chemo
bone marrow transplant - 11/3/06
Severe Host vs Graft Disease of liver
BC mets to lung 11/07
Fasoladex Herceptin Zometa Xeloda
GVHD/Iron overload to liver
Avascular Necrosis/morphine pump 10/10
metastatic brain tumor
steriotactic radiosurgery
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10-11-2006, 04:38 AM
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Webmaster
Join Date: Feb 2005
Location: Home of the "Flying Tomato"
Carlsbad, CA
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On behalf of us and the HER2 Support Group Board of Directors, we offer you and your family our deepest sympathies.
Christine and Joe
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10-11-2006, 12:36 PM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: St. George, UT
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Let me add my thoughts and prayers to all the others, Lisa. What tender memories you have of your last hours together! May God bless you and your family. My mom died at age 47 and my dad at 55, so I've been an "orphan" for many years, but the sweet memories never die and you will feel him close, just as I still do my parents. We are all here for you! Hugs, Tricia
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