need help desperately

[kay b]

I don't know which way to go from here.

I was diagnosed with breast cancer on 10/03, had double mastectomy on 12/03. I did natural treatment for one year. On 12/04 they did CT & PET scan and it show metastesis to lungs and liver. In 01/05 I started chemo and Herceptin and continued for 2 months, then just did Herceptin until 9/05. Because I started getting big welts(like rash) on left side of my body. In 10/05 I did IPT(small dose of chemo with insulin shots) natural treatments. When my doctor took an X-ray in his office, my spots were the same size as before.

I lost my husband to a brain tumor on Dec 2001 and I have a beautiful 7 year old daughter to take care of and I just want to get well and not let my illness dominate and consume my life as it has been for last 2 years.

My options are: (according to my doctors)
1st)Radiofrequency Ablation-they zap the tumors on your liver with laser
2nd)chemo for lung spots
or
Arimidex or Tamoxifen
or
Zeloda(makes your finger tips and toes numb, chemo)

Please let me know if you have done any of the above treatments or if you have heard of any better treatments. I am only 44 years old and I want to see my daughter grow up and she needs me. I want to thank TriciaK for telling me about this support group. Now, I feel like I have more options.

Kay