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12-01-2006, 09:34 PM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: FLORIDA
Posts: 148
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I Had To Put My Father In A Nursing Home
I WILL BE GLAD TO END 2006. IT HAS NOT BEEN MY YEAR. I'M TRYING MY BEST TO STAY POSITIVE BUT TONIGHT I'M HAVING A PITY PARTY FOR MYSELF. I HAD TO PUT MY FATHER IN THE NURSING HOME 24 DAYS AGO AND IT IS JUST AGONY WATCHING HIM DIE A LITTLE EACH DAY. TONIGHT WHEN I WENT TO VISIT, HE WAS VERY ANGRY WITH ME AND BEGGED TO GO HOME. THIS BREAKS MY HEART. SOMEHOW I WILL HAVE TO GET THRU HIS DEATH WHICH I KNOW WILL COME SOON. I KNOW HE WILL FIND PEACE SOON AND I TRY TO FIND COMFORT IN THAT BUT I AM SO VERY TIRED AND WONDER WHY LIFE HAS TO BE SO HARD. JUST HAD TO POOR MY BREAKING HEART OUT---THANKS FOR LISTENING.
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SHEILA (45)
09/2005--BREAST CANCER/8 POS NODES --A/C, MASTECTOMY,TAXOTERE, RADS, TAMOXIFEN,HERCEPTIN
02/2007--B/C METS TO OVARIES--HYSTERECTOMY, FASLODEX
12/2007--ENLARGING LYMPH NODES IN ABDOMEN--IXEMPRA, THEN TYKERB
08/2008--COLON TUMOR--A/C AGAIN,
12/2008--ABDOMEN TUMOR--AVASTIN/NAVELBINE FEMARA
05/2009--MET TO SPINE (L2) RADS
CURRENT TREATMENT
07/2009- START ZOMETA MONTHLY, XELODA & ABRAXANE......SURVIVING THE BEST I CAN
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12-01-2006, 10:01 PM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Alexandria, VA
Posts: 1,055
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Sheila,
Just wanted to say I'm sorry.
Been there with my Dad. There are just some things that are impossible. I offered to take my Dad to my home after a stroke, but the Docs recommended against it.
Hang in there. Try to find some meaning in the time left. Try to make dad happy, bring him his favorite food, or his favorite relatives. Visit often.
BB
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12-01-2006, 10:04 PM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: Acworth, GA
Posts: 2,104
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Sheila,
Sorry that you are going through all this. I know it's a difficult decision to come to but one that had to be made. Hang in there, visit him often and show him you love him.
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Kate
Stage IIIC Diagnosed Oct 25, 2005 (age 58)
ER/PR-, HER2+++, grade 3, Ploidy/DNA index: Aneuploid/1.61, S-phase: 24.2%
Neoadjunct chemo: 4 A/C; 4 Taxatore
Bilateral mastectomy June 8, 2006
14 of 26 nodes positive
Herceptin June 22, 2006 - April 20, 2007
Radiation (X35) July 24-September 11, 2006
BRCA1/BRCA2 negative
Stage IV lung mets July 13, 2007 - TCH
Single brain met - August 6, 2007 -CyberKnife
Oct 2007 - clear brain MRI and lung mets shrinking.
March 2008 lung met progression, brain still clear - begin Tykerb/Xeloda/Ixempra
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12-02-2006, 03:28 AM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Grand Rapids, MI
Posts: 1,516
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Sheila...
I'm SOOO sorry to hear about your father. Your 2006 sounds like my 2005. Luckily for ME, the doctors MADE me put my father in a nursing home and in hindsight, I now know that while it was hard, this was the best and ONLY decision that could have been made. I put my father in a nursing home on a Sat in mid Jan (can't remember the exact date) 2005 and the following Mon is "the mammogram" that would change my life (looking at what I would be going through for the next year and a half AND my mother also becoming ill in this time, there is NO way I could have taken care of him, her AND me). I didn't tell my dad about my situation until just before starting chemo (all the mini strokes he was having was affecting his brain too to where he was in his own kind of world) and was told by my onc, that I would not be able to see him while going through chemo. The Sat before my 3rd chemo, his nurse called and said it would be any time and that I may want to make an exception and visit him which I did on Tues and he passed away on 4/6/05, the day before my 3rd chemo. This is never an easy situation, but keep reassuring him that you didn't WANT to do this, but had no choice. Take care and big HUGGS.
Rhonda
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Rhonda
Dx 2/1/05, Stage 1, 0 nodes, Grade 3, ER/PR-, HER2+ (3.16 Fish)
2/7/05, Partial Mastectomy
5/18/05 Finished 6 rounds of dose dense TEC (Taxotere, Epirubicin and Cytoxan)
8/1/05 Finished 33 rads
8/18/05 Started Herceptin, every 3 weeks for a year (last one 8/10/06)
2/1/13...8 year Cancerversary and I am "perfect" (at least where cancer is concerned;)
" And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years."- Abraham Lincoln
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12-02-2006, 03:28 PM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Central Coast, CA
Posts: 3,207
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Dear Sheila,
No wonder your heart is breaking. What a lot you have had to deal with in 2006 - I join you in hoping for a bright 2007.
The situation with your father must be extremely painful and, yes, heartbreaking. My mother went through that with her mom. Many years later, as she was getting older herself she told me that if it ever became necessary to put her in a nursing home that I must do it and never feel guilty about it. She told me no matter what she said later, she wanted me to know that she had given and received enough love to last many lifetimes. Hold on to those thoughts about your dad.
Sending you a big hug
Chris
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Chris in Scotts Valley
June 2002 extensive hi grade DCIS (pre-cancer-stage 0, clean sentinal node) Mastectomy/implant - no chemo, rads. "cured?"
9/2004 Diag: Stage IV extensive liver mets (!) ER/PR- Her2+++
10/04-3/05 Weekly Taxol/Carboplatin/Herceptin , complete response!
04/05 - 4/07 Herception every 3 wks, Continue NED
04/07 - recurrence to liver - 2 spots, starting tykerb/avastin trial
06/07 8/07 10/07 Scans show stable, continue on Tykerb/Avastin
01/08 Progression in liver
02/08 Begin (TDM1) trial
08/08 NED! It's Working! Continue on TDM1
02/09 Continue NED
02/10 Continue NED. 5/10 9/10 Scans NED 10/10 Scans NED
12/10 Scans not clear....4/11 Scans suggest progression 6/11 progression confirmed in liver
07/11 - 11/11 Herceptin/Xeloda -not working:(
12/11 Begin MM302 Phase I trial - bust:(
03/12 3rd times the charm? AKT trial
5/12 Scan shows reduction! 7/12 More reduction!!!!
8/12 Whoops...progression...trying for Perjeta/Herceptin (plus some more nasty chemo!)
9/12 Start Perjeta/Herceptin, chemo on hold due to infection/wound in leg, added on cycle 2 &3
11/12 Poops! progression in liver, Stop Perjeta/Taxo/Herc
11/12 Navelbine/Herce[ptin - try for a 3 cycles, no go.
2/13 Gemzar/Carbo/Herceptin - no go.
3/13 TACE procedure
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