Pool Anyone??

Believe51 · 07-16-2007, 11:05 AM

Since my husband lost weight, I have been slowly replacing clothes with sizes that fit. Hey let's face it, when they do not fit you do look sick. He was the most disciplined and fit person I have ever known and losing 40 pounds (all muscle of course) really changed his body shape. So far I have replaced everything but summer shorts. Before shopping, eewww my favorite thing, I asked if he had any suggestions. Well he did.

He said, "Marie.....have you seen my legs???? You could shoot pool with them!!!" Girls, tears streamed down my face in laughter. We laughed for a good 20 minutes.

My point is this, especially for the new members to our lovely family: The longer away you get from the diagnosis, the more normal you life becomes again. Just when you thought that this is as normal as it will get, some more normalcy arrives in the nick of time.

We shall not settle and we will never think this is as good as it gets, normalcy arrives a little bit each day and we embrace it and say a prayer of thanks. We are the same people, as much as our life has changed, we are the same people only revised.

For our NEW FAMILY MEMBERS keep heart during your journey. Like I said, and with experience too, that the further away you get from that awful day the more normalcy, the more laughter, the more power you shall gather. And for us the worst day was not the day of diagnosis, it was the day before. The day before we had no power to fight this horrific battle, the day after we were empowered.

Mary Anne in TX · 07-16-2007, 01:04 PM

You are so right! When I would get frustrated about my hair as it grew out, my husband would laugh and say, "wait a few weeks, it will change colors again" - and it did! The curls would go different ways and just make it fun! And as the weight began to go a bit, I didn't feel like a giant anymore! We even laugh about my wobbly legs and my stairs fears "back then"! Now I understand why I inched my way down them! Most of all it's the appreciation of the day to day joys that take over! ma

Mary Jo · 07-16-2007, 07:47 PM

Hi Maria,

I couldn't agree more. At the time of diagnosis you think "oh, if only I could have my life back." You think you will never smile or laugh again. But, you do. You learn to live with your "new" self and you learn to find joy in your life even through the bad times. Blessings abound no matter where we are in life.

Thanks for reminding us that life is still good. Even when it seems (at times) that it isn't good at all.

Mary Jo

"For we know that in ALL things God works for the good of those who love Him and were called according to His purpose" Romans 8:28

Joy · 07-17-2007, 08:26 AM

such great happy words and so true-keep up that spirit and thank you for helping us with ours!

hutchibk · 07-18-2007, 08:27 PM

What a wonderful gift to give to our newbies!

We continue to find laughs at every turn. As I always say, "what good is cancer if you can't laugh at it?" - not to sound flippant, but it is what has gotten us through many tough moments!

Before my mastectomy and reconstruction, I remember my beau asking the plastic surgeon if we could also put a couple of plump implants just under my shoulder blades, so that he could have something fun to squeeze when he hugs me! LOL. Thank goodness my surgeon has a great sense of humor!

These days the joke is how much I look like David Letterman... (grow hair, grow!)