[dhealey]

Mary, There is no back to norm the way you used to be before cancer. You now have to find a new norm. I got very depressed about a month ago because I too will be nearing the end of my treatment in Janurary. I feel nervous about the cancer coming back. People at work act like I am not sick either, I guess because I continued to work and do everything like I did before. This is not always good as I get very tired. The only one who understands is my husband. I can no longer tolerate petty little problems or trivial things at work or home. I have learned though to appreciate everyday and treat it like it may be my last. Live in the moment. It has taken me awhile to do this. I think when you are going through treatment it is easy the sail through it without really thinking about having the cancer because everyone is concerned about getting you better and you are so busy with doctor appointments and treatments. The next phase is the hard one learning to move on. I am still working on that one. One thing I have learned is don't be to hard on your self and learn how to say no to things that aren't pleasing to you. Best of luck!