[Lien]

Your rads onc sounds like a real douche. Is he covering his own ass? Is he having trouble dealing with all those very sick people every day? Is he a closet sadist? I'd drop him like a hot potato.

We, cancer survivors, live in the NOW. We don't live next year or next month. We live NOW. And we need the best Quality of Life we can get. So when we have a good scan or blood test or whatever, we celebrate. Because today we are good. Today we were given some extra time on this planet, with our loved ones, with the things we still want to do.

It's not just their job to keep us alive, it is also their job to keep us in a good frame of mind. If that means we need some chemicals to help us do that: fine! If we need to get an upbeat report: give it to us! If we are the kind of person who needs to know the worst case scenario: let us know! But a doc needs to find out first what is best for each patient. Not what is best for him or her, not what makes them feel right or ok or in charge.

Your doc fails miserably on the latter part. He needs to be told that and he needs to shape up. You need as many good days as you can possibly get and he is responsible for helping you get those. If you like, you can forward my message to him.

Now for the reality check: Yes, you will probably die from metastatic breast cancer. But before you do, you are going to have an awesome life. You will get more out of your limited number of days than a lot of people who get old, but are not able to get everything they want and need out of life. You will get fewer days, but better days. And for now, the outlook is good and you are heading in the direction of lots of good days. Savour them. Enjoy them. And if you need pills to help you do that, get those pills. If venting on this forum helps: go ahead! Whine! Complain! Vent! That's what we are all here for: to help each other, to make the days count.

Love

Jacqueline