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StephN · 02-18-2007, 01:20 AM

Dear Tom ("Mr. Eloquence") -
We all feel as if your Mom was our MOM, the way you so lovingly described her and your fight to keep her with you.
My words are inadequate - but you must find a way to start to fill the void left behind. You can take up your time, but not the ache in your heart.

I am going with my Dad to see his cardio on Monday. His heart tests were not good and he has some bad blockages. It is so hard to see him this way - getting dizzy and even admitting to falling in the bushes after his haircut yesterday. I know there is less I can do for him than you were able to do for your Mom, but I keep you in mind as I struggle to understand what all is wrong and how it may be dealt with.

Sometimes I just wonder how I will get through all this, as we do not live in the same part of the state. You would like my Dad - he is a true gentleman and was extremely devoted to his mother the way you are.

I know God is with you and guiding you now as before in your Mom's last years.

02-18-2007, 01:20 AM	#28
StephN Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Misty woods of WA State Posts: 4,128	Dear Tom ("Mr. Eloquence") - We all feel as if your Mom was our MOM, the way you so lovingly described her and your fight to keep her with you. My words are inadequate - but you must find a way to start to fill the void left behind. You can take up your time, but not the ache in your heart. I am going with my Dad to see his cardio on Monday. His heart tests were not good and he has some bad blockages. It is so hard to see him this way - getting dizzy and even admitting to falling in the bushes after his haircut yesterday. I know there is less I can do for him than you were able to do for your Mom, but I keep you in mind as I struggle to understand what all is wrong and how it may be dealt with. Sometimes I just wonder how I will get through all this, as we do not live in the same part of the state. You would like my Dad - he is a true gentleman and was extremely devoted to his mother the way you are. I know God is with you and guiding you now as before in your Mom's last years. __________________ "When I hear music, I fear no danger. I am invulnerable. I see no foe. I am related to the earliest times, and to the latest." H.D. Thoreau Live in the moment. MY STORY SO FAR ~~~~ Found suspicious lump 9/2000 Lumpectomy, then node dissection and port placement Stage IIB, 8 pos nodes of 18, Grade 3, ER & PR - Adriamycin 12 weekly, taxotere 4 rounds 36 rads - very little burning 3 mos after rads liver full of tumors, Stage IV Jan 2002, one spot on sternum Weekly Taxol, Navelbine, Herceptin for 27 rounds to NED! 2003 & 2004 no active disease - 3 weekly Herceptin + Zometa Jan 2005 two mets to brain - Gamma Knife on Jan 18 All clear until treated cerebellum spot showing activity on Jan 2006 brain MRI & brain PET Brain surgery on Feb 9, 2006 - no cancer, 100% radiation necrosis - tumor was still dying Continue as NED while on Herceptin & quarterly Zometa Fall-2006 - off Zometa - watching one small brain spot (scar?) 2007 - spot/scar in brain stable - finished anticoagulation therapy for clot along my port-a-catheter - 3 angioplasties to unblock vena cava 2008 - Brain and body still NED! Port removed and scans in Dec. Dec 2008 - stop Herceptin - Vaccine Trial at U of W begun in Oct. of 2011 STILL NED everywhere in Feb 2014 - on wing & prayer 7/14 - Started twice yearly Zometa for my bones Jan. 2015 checkup still shows NED 2015 Neuropathy in feet - otherwise all OK - still NED. Same news for 2016 and all of 2017. Nov of 2017 - had small skin cancer removed from my face. Will have Zometa end of Jan. 2018.