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Cathya · 08-30-2006, 05:17 AM

Michelle;

I am so sorry to hear of your sadness. When I went through my separation from my husband (of 16 years) I read all the self-help books I could find. One topic seemed to lead to another. I felt wonderful. I also spent a year going to a child psycologist as my kids were very little back then. We would talk for 15 minutes about the kids and the rest of the time about me. He was wonderful. Best time I ever spent. I'm not suggesting you separate because I do think that many things can be worked out, but I am suggesting that you focus on yourself. I discovered that in my case, in trying to keep everything calm around me I was literally becoming a different person and one that I could not sustain in good mental or physical health. Of yes, another thing I did was take the Myers Briggs personality test. I discovered all sorts of things about myself through that. Much later I had my husband take it and I do regret I hadn't done that earlier as it explained so much about him that was just different from me naturally. God bless Michelle. As they say, life is a journey, not a destination.

Cathy

08-30-2006, 05:17 AM	#7
Cathya Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 752	Michelle; I am so sorry to hear of your sadness. When I went through my separation from my husband (of 16 years) I read all the self-help books I could find. One topic seemed to lead to another. I felt wonderful. I also spent a year going to a child psycologist as my kids were very little back then. We would talk for 15 minutes about the kids and the rest of the time about me. He was wonderful. Best time I ever spent. I'm not suggesting you separate because I do think that many things can be worked out, but I am suggesting that you focus on yourself. I discovered that in my case, in trying to keep everything calm around me I was literally becoming a different person and one that I could not sustain in good mental or physical health. Of yes, another thing I did was take the Myers Briggs personality test. I discovered all sorts of things about myself through that. Much later I had my husband take it and I do regret I hadn't done that earlier as it explained so much about him that was just different from me naturally. God bless Michelle. As they say, life is a journey, not a destination. Cathy __________________ Cathy Diagnosed Oct. 2004 3 cm ductal, lumpectomy Nov. 2004 Diagnosed Jan. 2005 tumor in supraclavicular node Stage 3c, Grade 3, ER/PR+, Her2++ 4 AC, 4 Taxol, Radiation, Arimidex, Actonel Herceptin for 9 months until Muga dropped and heart enlarged Restarting herceptin weekly after 4 months off Stopped herceptin after four weekly treatments....score dropped to 41 Finished 6 years Arimidex May 2015 diagnosed with ovarian cancer Stage 1C started 6 treatments of carboplatin/taxol Genetic testing show BRCA1 VUS Nice! My hair came back really curly. Hope it lasts lol. Well it didn't but I liked it so I'm now a perm lady 29 March 2018 Lung biopsy following chest CT showing tumours in pleura of left lung, waiting for results to the question bc or ovarian April 20, 2018 BC mets confirmed, ER/PR+ now Her2- Questions about the possibility of ovarian spread and mets to bones so will be tested and monitored for these. To begin new drug Palbociclib (Ibrance) along with Letrozole May, 2018. Genetic testing of ovarian tumour and this new lung met will take months. To see geneticist to be retested for BRCA this week....still BRCA VUS CA125 has declined from 359 to 12 as of Aug.23/18