[StephN]

Such a heartbreaking situation! Families can be difficult. I had to deal with my mother and one sister who were of the "in denial" mode when my father had very little time left. It was not so much telling my father, but getting my mother to place dad on hospice and allow him to pass away peacefully. Dad contracted an infection which short circuited finalizing all that.

You father must have conversations with his doctors. I can't imagine he would not ask pointed questions. There must be times when your family is not in the hospital when the doctors make rounds. Are you able to speak to your father just to see what he actually does know?

If he is unable to tolerate further chemo, he will understand what that means. You have my sympathy, and hope that this will resolve in a way that does not split your family.