[Lien]

That onc of yours has no way of knowing if or when your cancer comes back. The remark was stupid and insensitive and makes me wonder whether he knows his business.

The transition from active treatment to the next phase is hard. You are tired, battered and often an emotional wreck. I had a 3 yr old and an 8 yr old at home, and a 12 yr old & 16 yr old alternately living with us and with their mother. I thought that was hard. I can't imagine what it is like with 3 toddlers. You will have to find a new normal and that's just what you'll do. One step at the time, one breath at the time. It is hard, and you will need support, but you can do it.

In time, it will get easier. The further out from diagnosis, the longer the periods when you forget to think about cancer. You will enjoy your kids, see them grow up and find yourself being upset or grumpy for other reasons than cancer.

For me the hardest time was when I realized that all I could do from then on was wait. It made me feel like I had no control over anything in my life. So I tried to find things I did have control over. Like reading, or cooking, or jogging, or skiing. Things that would take my mind off the fear that I would not see my kids grow up. And that worked for me. You will find something that works for you.

Hugs

Jacqueline