[TKasander]

Jessica,
I'm with Bonnie 100%. Not only is going through treatment and being your own advocate exhausting, it takes over your life. Any little bit that eases the burden - go for it. Money problems on top of all of the other stress sure makes things difficult, but at some point what you can do is all that you can do. Encourage your husband to talk with someone other than you about his method of dealing with your illness. It took a lot of coaxing for me to finally do it, but it made a huge difference in our relationship. Sometimes being the care-giver is exhausting too, but we feel guilty that we can't fix the problem and we inappropriately lash out from time to time. For me, it was about the frustration of not being able to do more and sometimes Denise felt like she was being blamed when I didn't mean that at all. Hope this helps.

Ted