Dear Susan,
I know how frightened and devisdated you must be, I certainly was with my second diagnosis in April 2006, previous was in 1995, lumpectamy followed by 36 radiation treatments, cancer free until now. I couldn't believe I was going through more treatment, etc. a second time, different breast. But you must listen to your oncologist and do what he says. Her2 can be very aggressive and to ignore it and not treat would be a shame. And a hex on your husband for leaving you, that's terrible.
I have wonderful support from family and friends, and I'm making it. Had a marginal mastectomy, centinel nodes, one node positive, all other areas were clean. I saw two oncologists before making my selection, one wanted to use chemo followed by radiation and Herceptin, the second said Herceptin along with Aridia, may have to have chemo in the future but am not sure at this point. Have had three Herceptin treatments with no side effects. Plus I also had a spot on my thorastic spine that was malignant and that had to be deal with first, had 18 radiation treatments which I finished three weeks ago. yes they make you tired but you are able to function. I work now 6 hrs a day and am 66 years old.
I wish the very best for you and please keep in touch and let me know how you are doing.
gin-texas
ginkott1@aol.com