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Chelee · 07-22-2006, 04:22 PM

MaryAnn, That is what is coming across loud and clear. I do need to be a bit more assertive. I have been so nice its not funny for fear of making them mad since they have my life in their hands. (Then being STUCK in this group of doctors rather I like it or not does not help.) If I could walk...I would of been gone long ago! They KNOW they have you because you can't switch unless you can afford to pay out of pocket...and there is no way I can. They know this. That is one thing bad about many HMO's. Even PPO's are better.

Kim, You hit it right. This place I go to is being run like a MILL. That is funny because the place I went to for a 2nd opinion said the place I go to sounds like a MILL. LOL I am serious..they really did. And it seems just like that...all you hear is "NEXT".

Your so are right Kim, I DO second quess myself all the time. You guys are telling me what my husband has been trying to get through my head. But I have never had to deal with bc before and this has been so scary as you all know and have lived yourselves. I am usually NOT like this when it comes to my health...in fact I have never had problems like this with my physicians. They have always been good to me and answered my questions. This place acts like they OWN you and you have NO say in your tx and I know that is NOT true.

Its time I get more confident as you said and assertive. I did just tell my husband the other night this mrs nice guy is going to come to a end because its just NOT working. (I don't mean I will be offensive or or yell...but show then I DO have a say so in my care..and they do owe me answers. )

Whats doctor Phil say "People treat you the way you ALLOW them to treat you." That is so true!

You guys have been great! All of you have lit a fire under my behind and given me some good and well needed advice how to handle this. Now....here's hoping I come back after this week and tell you all things are looking up.

Thanks to all of you that replied...I can't tell you how much I appreciate it. I sincerely mean that.

Chelee

07-22-2006, 04:22 PM	#13
Chelee Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Southern, CA Posts: 2,511	MaryAnn, That is what is coming across loud and clear. I do need to be a bit more assertive. I have been so nice its not funny for fear of making them mad since they have my life in their hands. (Then being STUCK in this group of doctors rather I like it or not does not help.) If I could walk...I would of been gone long ago! They KNOW they have you because you can't switch unless you can afford to pay out of pocket...and there is no way I can. They know this. That is one thing bad about many HMO's. Even PPO's are better. Kim, You hit it right. This place I go to is being run like a MILL. That is funny because the place I went to for a 2nd opinion said the place I go to sounds like a MILL. LOL I am serious..they really did. And it seems just like that...all you hear is "NEXT". Your so are right Kim, I DO second quess myself all the time. You guys are telling me what my husband has been trying to get through my head. But I have never had to deal with bc before and this has been so scary as you all know and have lived yourselves. I am usually NOT like this when it comes to my health...in fact I have never had problems like this with my physicians. They have always been good to me and answered my questions. This place acts like they OWN you and you have NO say in your tx and I know that is NOT true. Its time I get more confident as you said and assertive. I did just tell my husband the other night this mrs nice guy is going to come to a end because its just NOT working. (I don't mean I will be offensive or or yell...but show then I DO have a say so in my care..and they do owe me answers. ) Whats doctor Phil say "People treat you the way you ALLOW them to treat you." That is so true! You guys have been great! All of you have lit a fire under my behind and given me some good and well needed advice how to handle this. Now....here's hoping I come back after this week and tell you all things are looking up. Thanks to all of you that replied...I can't tell you how much I appreciate it. I sincerely mean that. Chelee __________________ DX: 12-20-05 - Stage IIIA, Her2/Neu, 3+++,Er & Pr weakly positive, 5 of 16 pos nodes. Rt. MRM on 1-3-06 -- No Rads due to compromised lungs. Chemo started 2-7-06 -- TCH - - Finished 6-12-06 Finished yr of wkly herceptin 3-19-07 3-15-07 Lt side prophylactic simple mastectomy. -- Ooph 4-05-07 9-21-09 PET/CT "Recurrence" to Rt. axllia, Rt. femur, ilium. Possible Sacrum & liver? Now stage IV. 9-28-09 Loading dose of Herceptin & started Zometa 9-29-09 Power Port Placement 10-24-09 Mass 6.4 x 4.7 cm on Rt. femur head. 11-19-09 RT. Femur surgery - Rod placed 12-7-09 Navelbine added to Herceptin/Zometa. 3-23-10 Ten days of rads to RT femur. Completed. 4-05-10 Quit Navelbine--Herceptin/Zometa alone. 5-4-10 Appt. with Dr. Slamon to see what is next? Waiting on FISH results from femur biopsy. Results to FISH was unsuccessful--this happens less then 2% of the time. 7-7-10 Recurrence to RT axilla again. Back to UCLA for options.