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Barbara H. · 07-20-2006, 10:32 AM

Hi Rhonda,
As I said before, this teacher overreacted and handled the situation inappropriately. She should have heard from "both" boys what happened, given them a brief explanation about touching privates and moved on. She then needed to inform both parents, tell how she handled it, explaned that this behavior is natural and happens, in other words put both parents at ease, so that everyone could move on.
Sorry you had to deal with this.

I also have 3 children. I do believe that we have to listen to them, but realize there are often two interpretations to a story. In our third grade students learn points of view when we study the history of the Pilgrims and the Wampanoag. One way for them to understand points of view is to give them a playground scenario where two children are having an altercation and they come to an adult with thier story. There are commonalities, but the stories are never entirely the same. Blame does not necessarily need to enter the picture. Kids understand this.

On the other hand bullying can never be toloerated, and a parent needs to intervene immediately when that happens by notifying the teacher. If the teacher doesn't deal with it then the principal needs to know. Bullying that allows to continue can be very detrimental. There are many new inititives in this area. For those interested, there is a lot on the interenet concerning this subject.

Rhonda, your son needs to be praised for his ability to tell you and his doctor what happened.

Best wishes and good luck on your continued journey to raise him.

Barbara H.

07-20-2006, 10:32 AM	#7
Barbara H. Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Newton, MA Posts: 951	Hi Rhonda, As I said before, this teacher overreacted and handled the situation inappropriately. She should have heard from "both" boys what happened, given them a brief explanation about touching privates and moved on. She then needed to inform both parents, tell how she handled it, explaned that this behavior is natural and happens, in other words put both parents at ease, so that everyone could move on. Sorry you had to deal with this. I also have 3 children. I do believe that we have to listen to them, but realize there are often two interpretations to a story. In our third grade students learn points of view when we study the history of the Pilgrims and the Wampanoag. One way for them to understand points of view is to give them a playground scenario where two children are having an altercation and they come to an adult with thier story. There are commonalities, but the stories are never entirely the same. Blame does not necessarily need to enter the picture. Kids understand this. On the other hand bullying can never be toloerated, and a parent needs to intervene immediately when that happens by notifying the teacher. If the teacher doesn't deal with it then the principal needs to know. Bullying that allows to continue can be very detrimental. There are many new inititives in this area. For those interested, there is a lot on the interenet concerning this subject. Rhonda, your son needs to be praised for his ability to tell you and his doctor what happened. Best wishes and good luck on your continued journey to raise him. Barbara H.