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RhondaH · 07-18-2006, 07:04 AM

As many of you know, I am the single mother of a 5yo son (his father is in "time out" due to selling "non fda approved drugs". Ever since I found out I was pregnant with Tony, I have tried to be the "perfect mother" (read ALL the books, don't drink, smoke or take drugs...except for Phenobarbital for seizures and of course Herceptin; nursed him for the 1st year, used cloth diapers, read to him, would play with him for an hour when I would come home from work, have him on a good schedule, don't spoil him, use appropriate discipline (though have to admit that there were a couple of times that I lost it and spanked him, then apologized when I did it), have exposed him to cultural activities, send him to private school and highly rated daycare, etc etc. Since my father got ill 4/04 and then I was dx 2/05, I have been either too busy caring for or being cared for as well as being immersed in heart issues and now cancer issues (though admit that I've backed off being that I'm at the end of Herceptin and lets face it, other than the prayers, diet, exercise etc that I'm currently doing, theirs nothing else I can do to prevent this from coming back), I haven't been as focused Tony and now am encountering a problem. About 6 months ago, Tony and another male classmate were caught in the bathroom "comparing" private parts. Ok, I know kids are curious, but Tony is always trying to "touch" my moms and my privates. The literature I've read, says to ignore it and we've tried this (to some degree he finds this to be a game), but after a while, it gets to be annoying. Yesterday, when I picked him up from daycare, I found a note in his file that He "touched" Connor's (same little boy) private parts. Paula said she REALLY layed into him as like she says, while I have a call into his pediatrician to talk to him tommorow and she thinks the ped will make nothing of it, at the age of 10 or 12, daycare is REQUIRED to report such stuff. I talked to him last night and AGAIN this morning...now I think I'm nagging him, but I don't want him to have trouble (for NUMEROUS reasons) when he gets older. ***Any advise...PLEASE***

Rhonda

07-18-2006, 07:04 AM	#1
RhondaH Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Grand Rapids, MI Posts: 1,516	Need advise *unrelated to cancer* As many of you know, I am the single mother of a 5yo son (his father is in "time out" due to selling "non fda approved drugs". Ever since I found out I was pregnant with Tony, I have tried to be the "perfect mother" (read ALL the books, don't drink, smoke or take drugs...except for Phenobarbital for seizures and of course Herceptin; nursed him for the 1st year, used cloth diapers, read to him, would play with him for an hour when I would come home from work, have him on a good schedule, don't spoil him, use appropriate discipline (though have to admit that there were a couple of times that I lost it and spanked him, then apologized when I did it), have exposed him to cultural activities, send him to private school and highly rated daycare, etc etc. Since my father got ill 4/04 and then I was dx 2/05, I have been either too busy caring for or being cared for as well as being immersed in heart issues and now cancer issues (though admit that I've backed off being that I'm at the end of Herceptin and lets face it, other than the prayers, diet, exercise etc that I'm currently doing, theirs nothing else I can do to prevent this from coming back), I haven't been as focused Tony and now am encountering a problem. About 6 months ago, Tony and another male classmate were caught in the bathroom "comparing" private parts. Ok, I know kids are curious, but Tony is always trying to "touch" my moms and my privates. The literature I've read, says to ignore it and we've tried this (to some degree he finds this to be a game), but after a while, it gets to be annoying. Yesterday, when I picked him up from daycare, I found a note in his file that He "touched" Connor's (same little boy) private parts. Paula said she REALLY layed into him as like she says, while I have a call into his pediatrician to talk to him tommorow and she thinks the ped will make nothing of it, at the age of 10 or 12, daycare is REQUIRED to report such stuff. I talked to him last night and AGAIN this morning...now I think I'm nagging him, but I don't want him to have trouble (for NUMEROUS reasons) when he gets older. *Any advise...PLEASE* Rhonda __________________ Rhonda Dx 2/1/05, Stage 1, 0 nodes, Grade 3, ER/PR-, HER2+ (3.16 Fish) 2/7/05, Partial Mastectomy 5/18/05 Finished 6 rounds of dose dense TEC (Taxotere, Epirubicin and Cytoxan) 8/1/05 Finished 33 rads 8/18/05 Started Herceptin, every 3 weeks for a year (last one 8/10/06) 2/1/13...8 year Cancerversary and I am "perfect" (at least where cancer is concerned;) " And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years."- Abraham Lincoln