Hey, Annette – welcome to the best club that nobody wanted to join! Sorry to have you here, but glad you found us so soon – this is the best “online” site I’ve found and is great for information.
You must be very scared – but it sounds like you are already springing into action. Knowledge is power.
The scans you have set up are needed for the doctors to see exactly what they’re dealing with. This will help guide treatment recommendations. The scans may show the situation is much better than you fear – I hope this is true for you .
There are many treatment options – for Her2, you should definitely be offered Herceptin. This is often given in combination with various chemos.
Sounds like you have a new “doc” – I assume this is an oncologist? Regardless, you definitely should seek a second opinion from a specialist at a comprehensive cancer center – those folks are on the cutting edge of research and even if you get treatment elsewhere, you want to tap into that. I have 2 oncs; my local onc who I love and my “guru” at USCF. They work and play well together and I get the benefit (or confusion!) of getting different answers to the same questions! The most important thing is that you trust and can work with your doctor. If you find this is not the case, get another doctor!
You will have a lot more information shortly – this will help you feel more in control.
A good resource for “what questions to ask” is the Bloch Cancer Foundation
Started by H&R Block founder and cancer survivor Richard Bloch – who was given only months to live and then survived many many years before eventually dying of a heart attack. Check out the website (sorry, I'm too incompetent to actually attach the link)
http://www.blochcancer.org/
Good luck – keep us posted!
Chris