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Kate;
I agree with Maryann....she is afraid for herself. My daughter is 21 and has been fabulous and caring with me but when I bring up the subject of bc now she tells me it depresses her and puts her in a down mood and doesn't want to talk about it. I wanted to do genetic testing and she refuses and doesn't want to know. My first year on treatment she went for 3 different physical exams.....lol...just a little paranoid. She loves me and worries about me but the whole topic is just too close to her own wellbeing. I try to lead by example.....she sees me researching, talking to others, on this site, going for treatments and surviving.....just as my mother did before me for bowel cancer. She has a very good friend whose mother was ill for over a year and refused to see the doctor....she is now terminal lung cancer with mets to the brain and elsewhere. She still refuses to discuss this with her daughter. My daughter repects her decision and is just there for her friend but I do not doubt that the difference between us is clear. I have said....a cancer diagnosis is a very scarey thing....but you can't live in that fear. I am sure she gets the message and will make good decisions. I am also aware that I sometimes try to surround her and protect her in my way because of my fear for her....I know I can't do that either. It's tough.....mothers and daughters......
Cathy
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