Charlotte,
Welcome to our group. Did your pathology report indicate your HER2 status? That will help determine your treatment options. Although most of the women here are HER2 positive you are more than welcome to remain and participate if you are not.
There are resources available to you:
Financially, I would investigate Social Security Disability. You will be eligable for medicare after 2 years, if you don't have that now. Your local congressman can help you in applying. Did your oncologist restage you? You mention that you were sytage I in 2004, but this new tumor may qualify you to be restaged as Stage IV. At that point SS Disability is almost automatic.
Also most pharmaceutical companies will provide medicine free of charge based on your financial status. By federal law you can not be refused medical treatment based on an inability to pay.
There is tons of additional resources available to you. You may want to visit our resources page:
http://her2support.org/resources.html
Warmest Regards
Joe